Even medicine isn't helping me

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I've been on some new medicine that I was told would help with obsessive thoughts but it's not helping. Even when I am doing things at work, my mind can't stop thinking about how I don't have a girlfriend and I feel powerless to do anything. My 20's are almost gone, my other dreams have smashed on the ground, and I keep seeing others leave me behind.

It usually takes 4-6 weeks for a new medication to take effect. When did you start?

My two cents, Fluoxetine took like over 7 weeks to really take full effect.

It has been a blessing ever since. Against obsessive thoughts, anxiety, you name it!!

A medicine against obsessive thoughts?

Somehow I have trouble believing such a thing exists.

The 18th so it's been little over a week now. I did forget to take it one day, though.

I don't know if it will completely stop the thoughts. I've had them for so many years and many things reinforce them. When I see a couple pass me by, especially if it's a nerdy, geeky, or gothic couple, I wonder what is so wrong with me that I can't have the same thing. When I hear or get told someone is engaged or has gotten married, it tears me up inside. If I get asked if I have a girlfriend or if I want children, it destroys the day for me. I also feel like when I am told to be happy with myself that I am being told to "suck it up".

“Do you have a gf?”

Correct response: that depends. Who’s asking?

Neurontin/Gabapentin helps me with em but part of my problem is OCD related & it helps me with my OCD.

Give the medicine some time, dude.

I'm hoping you feel better. And there's nothing wrong with you. You just had the misfortune to be born an autistic in an NT society.

Too soon to expect results yet unless you are really lucky. If you have had no results after 4-6 weeks you need to speak to who prescribed it to you to maybe change the dose or drug.

Better as in that I will find the path to a relationship?

There's not a pill for that. There's no quick fix for that.

The medication is to drag you out of the black hole of depression and to help stop your obsessive thought pattern.

Don't expect miracles, but Prozac works for most people. It has massively helped with the OCD side of ASD and really helps with Anxiety. You'll probably notice after a few months.

But I don't want it to make me give up wanting a girlfriend. I feel like that is what some people want it to do for me. I don't want the people who hurt me to celebrate and I want to prove them wrong.



I used to take Prozac when I was in middle school. I stopped when it caused me to have tremors.

You really need to let this go. No one is "celebrating" your perceived failures. You would be surprised at how little people actually think of you - and I don't mean that in a negative way. People have their own lives to live and their own worries to think about. No one is walking around thinking about you and "celebrating" anything you don't do or don't achieve.

This is the pit you need to get yourself out of. You think about these things way too much.

The consequence of that is it might help you think more clearly about what you need to do to fix it. It won’t make the path glow with magical bright light. It’ll just help you have an easier time with the path you’re on. If you need to turn back or take a different path, you’ll find it easier to do without obsessive thoughts killing it for you. You’ve sort of hit the wall as we runners like to say. Finishing the race will mean excruciating pain, position loss, and an empty victory. Quitting and trying again later having learned some valuable lessons will go a longer way towards a strong finish next time.

That’s my long winded way of saying you need a break. Give it time, and your medication will give you just that.

In my experience, and this certainly doesn’t apply to everyone, I found when I used Ritalin it sort of made me numb after a few weeks. It was amazing right at first, but then I just felt drowsy with a slight touch of anxiety. I also found I couldn’t concentrate on things I enjoyed. Meanwhile, my classroom and homework focus steadily got worse than it had been before. And I got really violent.

So as a personal choice, I stay off the meds and, as you say, “just suck it up.”

It may take a lot of time, and you may have to try different things for a while. But I do know meds have come a looooong way since I was in counseling. I feel fairly confident if you stay consistent with meds and keep your doc informed on how it’s working for you (or not), you’ll eventually get what you need. Hang in there.