Why are married men attracted to me?

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Hi everyone I have a big problem especially at the moment. I seem to attract married men Why I don't know? I'm no good with social cues and reading body language or facial expressions it's
been my NT male friends who have told me when they have been with me around this guy that he is attracted to me I wouldn't even know. I don't do anything to attract them at all. The situation I'm in at the moment concerns a guy who is a retail assistant who is now the manager of a local retail store near me he has been married for four years he is now about to become a father his wife is 8 months pregnant. I've known this guy for two years and not once did he ever try to hit onto me at all, he basically Ignored me and was professional until 8 months ago when my male friend who came into the shop with me noticed this guy getting all worked up and giving him a death stare because he stood next to me and the fact that this guy could not stop staring at me for what my friend said hours. I didn't think much of what he said it ended my male friends friendship with me he said that this guy made him feel really uncomfortable he felt intimidated by him it kept on happening every time he came into the shop with me. In the last three weeks has been how can I describe it like living in hell this guy has been driving me Insane and that's being polite to the stage I ended up going home and drinking a bottle of Jim Beam because it was just too confusing and overwhelming his behaviour towards me. He has been touching me on the arm very gently he wants to hold my hand all the time, he always wants to stand beside me all the time especially if there is a bunch of guys in the shop he is standing right beside me he gives guys a death stare if they talk to me or stand too close to me one Sunday when there was a Tournament my male friend stood beside me and this guy came nose to nose to my male friend and just about hit him when one of the guys pulled him away I was standing beside my male friend who also has Autism and saw what this guy was doing. Everytime I look at him he is full on staring at me with eyes like saucers at me which freaks me out and he is talking to me really softly he even kicked people out of the shop so he can be with me alone one lunchtime I felt so uncomfortable and freaked out that I left. Four days ago his wife who I am friends with came into the shop she was very upset and very tired and stressed understandably because she is 8 months pregnant she came up to me ready to bite my head off which never happened she worked out that this guy had been acting weird, out of character at home that she walked into the shop I talked to her like I usually do and then she realised that I did not do anything and that I wouldn't know anyway because she knows that I have Autism and she knows I wouldn't get it anyway she was more angry at him than me just before she left this guy said see look your my b***h then she left when she left this guy was back staring at me, flirting with me that's the word I was looking for mind you I am so freaked out by his behaviour that I was more frozen in my chair to even talk little lone do anything. This situation has caused me to drink which is totally out of character for me I had no sleep for two days and I ended up turning up at the shop where everyone said I looked awful I wanted this guy to see what his been putting me through he ended up saying I should go home because I looked like beep he kept on staring at me and he held my hand and was constantly looking at me to see if I'm ok because I have gone quiet which isn't normal for me I talk alot and be cheeky and laugh to see me quiet and very uncomfortable is totally out of character for me I am honestly at a loss of what to do my parents know about this and have told me not to go down to the shop when he is there is this behaviour normal for guys who are about to become a father for the very first time or is the not normal mind you he is always complaining about his wife the boys kept om telling me even when I first came into the store two years ago that this guy wasn't getting it much time with his wife and wasn't getting any that he can't go anywhere or do anything or his wife will get mad at him. All I want is what's going on to stop it's driving me nuts.

They're looking for a mark to have sex with who won't complain.

I agree with Chronos. The guy shouldn’t have touched you like that.

He sounds like a real psycho and I wouldnt be able to work in a place like that tbh. I think you need to raise it with his superiors if you do wish to carry on working their, otherwise look for another job and make someone aware eg the police in case the behaviour continues once you have left.

Maybe they are attracted to women who don’t use any paragraphs.

You better carry pepper spray with you the next time you need to go to the store.