I hate having a crush.

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I get very mentally obsessive when I have a crush. It's been a while since I've experienced this feeling and I felt like I needed to say it to someone as some sort of therapy - hopefully to people who will understand.

I saw my childhood crush this weekend and he went to lunch with me and my family. We talked and trolled each other the whole time, and weirdly we act a lot alike and have the same humor.

I'm kind of glad because it's distracting me from my depression. But I'm also anxious and I feel like a child again. And I can't stop thinking of him and I don't want to text him because that'll just make it worse, like giving sugar to a diabetic. -_-

I kinda relate. I've been having a crush obsession on a celeb for the last 10 years that won't go away. It took a hiatus for like a year after I got my 3rd girlfriend & it went away for the 6 months I had my 2nd girlfriend but otherwise it aint'e leaving. I haven't tried contacting her cuz I know how crazy I sound & she had problems with a stalker before & the last thing I wanna do is freak her out. Being on OCD medication & an antipsychotic doesn't seem to be helping this at all thou they're helping other issues. I think I need my head slapped really hard, given ECT, or something worse.

Ugh celeb crushes are the worst. I've been dealing with them my whole life. I watch them in movies and interviews or read about them for hours.

I met one of my celeb crushes once and fortunately I didn't act crazy. I figure they get enough of that and at the end of the day they're just a person like anybody else. Outside of that, I've never contacted any of mine either because I figured I would sound like a crazy stalker too.

The struggle is real.

The only crush I ever had was on Miranda & crushes can take up a lot of time. On big problem with that is that I fell deeply in love with her.

I would LOVE to meet Miranda but I wouldn't be truly happy with anything short of marriage. If I had to chose between her & my girlfriend, I'd definitely pick my girlfriend in a hot second but I'd ideally really want to be married to both of them. I can settle & live with being married to my girlfriend & just being Miranda's best friend but I have NO clue how to make that happen. What's even worse is that I can see myself falling for two other celebs if I'm not careful but my crush & love on Miranda isn't going away or getting any better. My feelings for Cass are not waning either which is very good of corse but how am I supposed to deal with two more crushes or even one more when I already have sever deep feelings for two women I'm destroying myself

Do you think he has a little crush on you too? In this case you should text to him in a humorous way. It shows him your interest. For this he will reject this or block you if he isn't interested. Otherwise you may ask him whether he would like to meet with you once again...

I love having a crush and I miss it.

I think the thing to do if you have an unrequited crush is think of things you can do in your kind of style that would appeal to people more generally, because if they don't feel the same way, that's the closest you're going to get to changing their mind, and besides, maybe then you'll be more likely appeal to someone like them who you'd end up liking as much or more.

Kind of use it as inspiration for being a more acceptable person and try to sublimate the energy and focus, I think.

First, I think people should avoid unrequited crushes. I think I'm able to decide if I want to keep a crush and let it develop in intensity, or let it die. At least, in the beginning. It then will be up to a decision if a crush is worthwhile or not, and if there is a possibility that it could become mutual. I think the most important part of that decision is to ensure you are of compatible neurotypes. Trying to appeal the "NT way" to your crush is an extremely bad choice. That's because if you think this would work you already answered "Are we of compatible neurotypes?" with a "no".

Sometimes crushes just happen as you get to know/get used to the person regardless of if you think it's a good idea or not or want it to happen or not. I really could not help developing a crush on Miranda & I don't see how any guy could help falling for a goddess like her.

I have been in your shoes too and I think it's because we become some attached to someone because there are not a lot of people who would be willing to accept us. So we are scared that we will not find anyone else.

I have also been known to as what others told me when a few situations didn't work out with a few guys, "Put my eggs into just one basket."

1. I ended up not really crushing on this old friend from Jr. High and highschool but doing it out of a self-fufilling prophecy after a group of peers kept telling us to "Go out." After a while, I started to believe that we should be together while he said no to that. Instead, he met another girl, which I became very jealous of. LOL.

We ended up connecting recently but he turned out to have some serious problems of his own and never really quite matured. He is a neat guy and I love him as a friend but at this point in time, I don't see us ending up together.

2. The second guy who I liked and obsessed over was also on the spectrum but it didn't work out because we have such different personalities, priorities and on different ideas of what we want in a mate.
A. He's high geek and wants someone like himself
B. I am into helping people with autism and mentoring them and I would like a mate with those same interests.

I chased him around online and at conventions but he kept giving me the signal that he was no interested.

Crushes are the story of my non-existent love life. lol It's been a few years since I've had one and the last one turned out to be a lying thief, back-stabbing psycho, so I'm just as glad she's out of my life. But I've probably had 20 or so in my lifetime going back at least to first grade, maybe longer. And I almost always fall really hard for a girl. Many times it's taken me months, if not years to get over them. I wanna say it's gotten harder especially since I lost my parents b/c now I'm really hoping (if not atm actively looking) for a soulmate and you sometimes do feel driven right to the edge. But then I remember how I felt when I was younger, long before my diagnosis and those caused me some periods of sheer joy, but also alot of agony.