People who lie about their age so you will like them.

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Hi:
I was wondering if you have ever met people who like you and lie about their age so they can get you to like them dating-wise?

Years ago, my childhood ex-friend and I had re-connected off and on a few times before I decided she was not the right friend altogether at age 20. During those re-connections, she set me up with a few boys. At age 18, she set me up with one who I talked to on the phone and met once. During our phone conversations, he told me he was 17. When I finally was set to meet him in person, my ex-boyfriend's mom told me he was actually 15. When we finally met, he confessed this to me.

Yes, back when I was still single (my mid-30s), a lot of older women tried to convince me that they were younger than I, which would have meant that they had given birth to their teenaged kids when they were less than 10 years old.

My ex-girfriend's brother lied about his age when he got together with his Lithuanian girlfriend -- shaved ten years, I think. But that not the worst of his lies. He told her he was divorced, when he was merely separated from his schizophrenic wife. He told her he was a lawyer, when he had never set foot in a college in his life.

The worst thing he ever did was land on his sister's doorstep, lied about a fortune he was about to make, via a foreign investment, and proceeded to burn through over 200,000 Swiss Francs of her money, and left her in financial trouble. What a class act he is!

Been tempted to as a lot of women say they date up to 30 and I’m 31

There's a reason to care about age, and that's when someone's age directly impacts your relationships goals. If you want children and someone is post-menopausal, that's a problem. If going out with him or her risks going to jail, that's something you need to know right away. If (literally) NOBODY will date you because you're a certain age, and I mean NOBODY, and there's no reason why your age should be a concern, then you don't owe anyone any explanation. How old are you? "Old enough. Hey, let's get going. You're not gonna want to be late for THIS!" How old are you? "Old enough to know better, honey." How old are you? "Now, didn't your momma teach you it's impolite to ask a lady her age?" It's nobody's business. Don't ask. Don't tell. If you're being pressured to reveal something that's nobody's business, then they don't deserve the truth.

I lied about my age when I was dating in my 50s. I added about 5 years. This was always revealed on a first date or even a first contact. I explained that my disability makes me less able than someone my true age. You sometimes have to manipulate the system a little just to get through search filters. But I never wanted a lasting misperception, hence the prompt admission.

Lying about your age is nothing new. I do genealogy. When you follow someone through successive censuses, it's interesting how with each passing decade, birth dates seem to get later and later (i.e., they're lying about their age), especially for women! Quite often public records for a death date are fairly accurate but getting a true birth date can be quite tricky! It was also common to pretend to be widowed when you were only divorced or separated, because of the stigma of divorce a hundred years ago.

Long story short: people are only human.

Many teenagers will lie about their age when dating. They pretend to be older than what they really are.

Many older adults will lie about their age when dating. They pretend to be younger than what they really are.

I'm in my 20s but I could easily get away with being 15


But yes I've had people lie to me about their ages mainly guys in their 60s praying on 13 years old at the time.

I know I'm rather naive about at least some things for my age, but that's so f****d up. I am middle-aged (look at my profile obviously) and I confess yes I have a strong desire to date a millennial rather than a fellow Gen Xer in the future. I'm sorry if in the view of some people that makes me an evil person or something. And I've been told many times (even w/some gray hair now) that I can at least pass for a 30-something yo, occasionally even a 20-something yo. And that's a gift for which I'm grateful.

BUT I could never lie about something as basic as my age, especially to someone I wanted to date, I just could not do it. It's so f*****g unethical, if not manipulative and pervy. In some social situations I might be embarrassed about my age (I am) and I might say, "I'd rather not say" or something. But not w/someone I'm asking to hang out with me w/whom I'm hoping things go further romantically, sexually, etc. It feels to me like it would be lying to her heart or something and that's just wrong to me. I can see at least why men would do it, at least alot of reasons why. But that's so not me.

my late father added 10 years to his age when introducing himself to his 6 years-older wife. he was 19 but told my mom he was 29 and my late mom didn't find out until well into marriage when my grandmother pulled her aside and leveled with her.