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I’m 50, I’m not attractive to men my age, they seem too mature for me & I’m mentally very young for my age, I HATE Aspergers! It’s feel like other people are getting older & I’m the same age mentally, I wish I can grow up too. I can have a mind like a child, my Aspergers can make me feel sooo stupid! There this guy that I met on Instagram, he is my age, I think he looking for a relationship, I’m not attractive to him, he said he’s a doctor.

Then go after younger men.....

Hey Kitty - the Doctor is but one man ... Doctors don't generally have a good track record when it comes to relationships generally due to the hours they work etc. Hope you find someone who appreciates you and who enhances your life and vice versa. X

I don’t know why men are attractive to me on Instagram,maybe it’s because I’m following Coffee Meets Bagel on Instagram.

I'm kinda surprised by this. It's not uncommon for guys to like women who are a bit younger than them with maturity & looks(you mentioned before that you look young for your age). In general older guys tend to date women a lot younger than them more often than younger guys who date women a bit older than them. I'd bet that there is more going on than all guys around your age being unattracted to you simply for your immaturity & looks.

I know you have various physical issues & disabilities. I have a bit of various physical disabilities & issues & I've known a lot of people on & offline who also have various physical disabilities & issues. Being disabled physically can MAJORLY hinder getting dates & relationships sometimes, especially if you are not gainfully employed or rich. Even if you have income like from disability, SSI &/or other benefits, people in conservative areas tend to think of you as a lazy leech sucking on the teats of the hard-working American taxpayer. In more liberal areas, people are more sympathetic but they have concerns about entering a relationship with someone disabled. They worry that the disabled would not be able to pull their weight. The disabled might be dependent on their partner financially. The government benefits can get slashed or the gov can make it harder to access them. If you get married when your on SSI, your partner's income will affect your SSI amount. With SSI, the more income your partner has or resources they have, the more your SSI gets reduced till you get nothing. Health care can cost aLOT sometimes & if you get married, your partners income & resources can affect your Medicaid eligibility & you could potentially lose it. Times are tough rite now for LOTS of people. The US economy is in the toilet & things have been bad for a long time but have gotten a lot worse due to the pandemic. People also have concerns that the disabled will not be able to take care of the housework. Having to go to work long hours at jobs you hate & then coming home & having to do all the housework in order to take care of yourself & your partner while your partner doesn't help out, can can fester resentment towards em very quickly.

That said, LOTs of disableds do try to pull their weight in relationships as best they can. They hate having to be financially dependent on their partners. They want their own income weather it's from a job or gov benefits & they try to take care of the house stuff as best they can. They can have LOTS of potential within a loving supportive relationship but they do tend to face some serious negative stigma sometimes. I think the negative stigma in some areas could be worse for disabled guys than disabled women due to the stereotypical traditional gender roles & current gender equality or rather lack thereof. I think you might be in California & Cali overall is a lot more liberal than where I'm originally from which is Louisiana so that's good.

One important thing to keep in mind is that bad people like to prey on the disabled & immature & naive because they see us as easy targets.

Disableds sometimes have much better success with dating & relationships if they think outside the box some. Instead of just focusing on their problems & issues & trying to minimize em, it could help if they focus on their strengths & capabilities as well. Different people can find different things attractive & can have very different wants & needs within a relationship. Sometimes disabled people have better success having relationships with other disableds. Sometimes disabled people are better able to sympathize, empathize, & relate to other disableds even if they have very different conditions.

The travel thing is a known cliché on dating apps btw.

And apparently a lot of men do it too:
https://www.washingtonpost.com/travel/2 ... ting-apps/