Is religion a super-glue for marriage?

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I noticed something about the vast majority of my married friends & neighbors...

There is ONE thing they all share in common which I believe can be attributed to their marital success and longevity:

Religion! !!

Religious people are less likely to divorce when their marriage goes south because they believe it's against the will of God

I should conveniently mention that David is religious too

What I am trying to say is, being religious increases the risk of being corrupted by the Sunk-Cost Fallacy and becoming imprisoned! !! !! !

Degree of interpersonal "Friendship" /Relationship and Religion is a asset .

Of course

Very few Brits have strong religious convictions and yet we still get married like other human beings. I believe the answer to your question is no.

Divorce is NOT "dirty" or "wrong" but most religious people and devout Christians believe otherwise!! !

If my married friends & neighbors were to divorce...what would be the catalyst for them to carry out such a plan?

And...when I eventually get married to David what would cause me to decide to divorce him, if necessary?

The answer would most likely be infidelity because once your husband or wife cheats on you, the trust and foundation in the marriage COLLAPSES, regardless of religion!

The other possibility would be a change in faith

Like the husband or wife decides one day to stop supporting Christianity that might be grounds for divorce because they would no longer have that in common!! !

This is why I am trying to get out of Texas, if not the US. I don't believe in marriage, too much legal stuff involved, and I don't like the idea of it being a prerequisite for sex.

But nearly everybody here is a conservative Christian.

I think that religion would ruin a relationship.

There are plenty of people in Texas who dont believe in waiting till marriage especially in Houston. I would say the majority here dont believe in abstinence. Its not even universally practiced among religious people here.

Oh I don't know about that since all the religious couples I am personally acquainted with are still happily married and they credit God for their marital success

Unless...some of them are just staying for the kids and will divorce once their children turn 18?

I don't know every single thing that goes on in these peoples' lives...


EDIT: The true test for the younger religious married couples like my neighbors Phil and Anita is to see what happens to their marriage when their 2 kids grow up and leave home! !!

They act like they REALLY love each other but how can I be so sure it's not just a facade or hoax?

Religion is a reason why I am not married.

My marriage survived ALS. I was with her when she passed away in a hospice. Many women aren't so fortunate.

A lot of marriages don't. It is a brutal disease. Divorce is often recommended for financial reasons.
Qualifying for Medicaid is a big one. Fortunately my wife qualified for Medicaid. We also opted for hospice.
If you choose hospice Medicaid covers just about everything.

Hmm...I am beginning to wonder if this happened to the creator of SpongeBob SquarePants Stephen Hillenburg (who had ALS)...

He was married to Karen Hillenburg which I believe is reflected in the show's characters Plankton and Karen

I don't know much about the man's private life though!! !

David has MS but he could get ALS I think?

My first girlfriend lived in Huston & she cheated on me with her ex but that was 22 years ago

ive never personally seen myself as the marrying type, but yes when you live under the safe umbrella i guess Religion and Marriage go hand in hand. thats not to say you can marry outside religion many people do and live happily enough.

It just seems like God keeps a LOT of married couples together

That makes me wonder what would happen if God and religion were taken out of the picture?

Would they be more willing to divorce if things got tough or still treat marriage as lifelong?

To me, I see lifelong marriage as imprisonment because when you decide to get married you basically sign a contract pledging your loyalty to your partner until death

If you take divorce off the table (most religions are anti-divorce) what would happen if you decide one day that you do NOT want to wait until your husband or wife passes away to leave them but because you are religious divorce is frowned upon?

The answer is...you find yourself imprisoned!! !

This is the fate that I don't want Glenn and Maureen, Phil and Anita, & Leon and Joyce to suffer!

Also, I myself am getting married next year and David too is religious