How do you know if a guy is into you?

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Yep. How? (There's a dude who I hate to say, is kind of creepy, who used to like my friend, but we think he may like me now.)

How old are you and the guy? It depends on the age.

They look at you alot, make excuses to be near you, are unable to speak coherently in your presense...

I'm 15. I have no idea how old he is. He's in my grade though, and I have a feeling I might be older than him. What if you don't know the guy? (Just asking some random questions incase other people need them answered.)

So... you are saying you DON'T like him, because he is kind of creepy, right? Better not to even wonder if he likes you. Just try to stay away from him. Walk away when he comes to you.

Lots of eye contact; they look at you a lot. Like AspE said, they make excuses to be near you. They may also seem to be happier around you than anyone else. They may (and probably will) go to greater lengths to socialize with you than anyone else.

Bear in mind that these are all things I've observed myself to do towards girls I like (I'm a guy, btw), and that all of these things are ways that a fellow aspie does to show their affection. As such, they may not apply if the guy you're referring to is NT; I'm not sure. I've never been sure if my affections have been reciprocated, but I have my hunches.

Thanks guys!! ! No, I do not like him. At all. I just feel bad for him because nobody else does either and he's kind of a loner. Normally I would be like, "Hey, they look like they need a friend. I'll be their friend." But this guy has said crap about one of my other friends to me before. (Who happened to also reject him when he asked her out, but It doesn't matter.) Now that I think of it, he might possibly be an Aspie. I don't know. I've just never really been one to judge, and I feel bad even ignoring him slightly (not in a mean way) when he comes. I don't want to hurt his feelings, I just want him to leave me and my friends alone.

Guys, in general, don't pick up on subtlety, and especially AS guys. You should probably make it clear that you aren't intereste--by avoiding this guy.

Or just tell him outright... it hurts (especially to the rejectee), but it will help him move on with his life...

He'll start tugging on the back of my shirt, I'll turn around, and him and his girlfriend are just looking at me. Then he has to talk her into getting up, trying to get me to buy her a beer, and saying "Hey, my boyfriend really likes you". Don't know what it is but I hope it doesn't happen again too many more times, preferably never.

^Whoa. Nice story.

Yeah, I guess I should. If it continues, I will say something. Thanks!

He might make fun of you and be mean- because he likes or has a crush on you. *shrugs* Adolescent boys are like that.

"make fun of you and be mean" - girls are attracted to guys that do that correctly. fact.

Mmmkay. Here is a totally different situation. There is a (most likely NT) senior guy who has a (popular/leadership type) girlfriend, and you always catch him looking at you and you have met his eyes a few times (for at least a few seconds), but he doesn't talk to you or show any other signs of interest. What the hell is up?

I'll tell you exactly what's up (as a male).

Stay away from this guy. If he makes a move, he is the stereotypical senior guy looking for some fresh young piece of...yeah. 99% chance he is sexually attracted to you, 99% chance he does not give a flying piece of crap who you are or what you are like. He'd do the absolute minimum to get in your pants. If he doesn't make a move, then he's just checking you and your young friends out i.e. undressing you with his eyes.

It happens every year... Senior moving in on the Freshman\Sophomore girls, and since puberty hits stronger and younger for girls, they feel more at home with an older guy, at least at first. When it's funny because the only thing that changes from Freshman year to Senior year in a guy, is the chance he drinks or does drugs, and the chance that he's slept with alot more girls.