Is it normal......

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Well this isn't a statement about myself, that I think i'm lowly or rubbish or worthless, but I just can't imagine myself getting into a relationship with another member of my species, I just don't feel, I suppose is the best way to put it, just not much other than science, logic and video games run through my head, sort of like a robot

But what I wanted to know is if its normal for an aspie to think like that, I mean I do not care truly, I could go through my entire life without sex or love, because both are merely animalistic urgers, one driving the other of course, but does anyone else feel like this?

PS: I don't expect to find a girl either to be honest, although if she liked nuclear physics I think she'd be impossible to resist

That sounds like a rather normal thing for an aspie to feel imo.

ah good then lol, because I doubt i'll be changing it any time soon, besides I got friends so i'm happy

If you're happy then that's all that matters

but is it though? happiness is merely a term to describe a human feeling that even at best is fleeting, kind of like love, people describe at as a material force like a touchable object, then call you emo when you explain its due to chemicals in the brain which are merely trying to get you to implant your sperm into the most viable female, for lack of a less descriptive choice of words, maybe thats why I don't care, because as the majority of humanity defies evolutionary habits I guess it doesn't matter if I do

Normal? To Hell with whether it's normal or not, I personally envy you.

This is how I think. Problem is, the other parts of my brain function normally to hyper-normally (is that a word? No? Whatever), so I have all of the logic, reason, science thinking, and all of the sex drive, desire for relationships, ability to read people, socialize, and it's like being shredded between two worlds at once. That, in a nutshell, is why I said I envy you.

Though really, I think it's impossible for humans to completely do away with the instinct without true brain death and injury; I suspect it's like my inability to comprehend exact math (dyscalculia) and spatial problems most of the time, but I still do retain some ability. My wires are just crossed, and there aren't as many connections as there 'should' be. It could be you're out of sync. But if it's not making you miserable, that's what's the best. I figure there's only destructive and constructive forces to all life--that's how I conceptualize it. The 'misery' is destructive reaction, and as long as you're not in a destructive, negative situation, you're good to go. That's how I could define 'happy,' though I despise that word more than any other.

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Which portion of me lol?

Hope it works out for you. I was that way. But, then I met a particular woman, and I fell for her. Hard. Much, much later I learned about the word 'limerance'. I think that was what happened. Because it happened the moment I laid eyes on her. However, I was totally unequipped to deal with it and it frightened me to death. To make a long story short, I eventually came to terms with it and her. We are still friends. But I couldn't go back to the way I was before.

I miss that.

Oh my god, you come in portions? Can you dole yourself out in little packages? Are you marketable thusly? Can I try a little? TRADESIES? I could use a little bit more ability in the nuclear physics.

Sure I do, would you like the Quarks, Gluons and Subatomic Particles Package, The Baryons, Fermions and Other Composite Particles Package, Or the Fission and Fusion Package, I split into three! Each pack is £78 or $100 for simplicity lol

And yeah all I wrote doesn't automatically mean I don't like girls to be honest, some of them are drop dead gorgeous, but I don't bother, because I see little point in trying to procreate for the reasons I mentioned, I don't really care, besides, If I had a son more intelligent than me, well, i'd be extremely happy to say the least, of course, that would take a lot of making sure the right alelles get to the right places

sounds totally normal to me

Sometimes humans can be overwhelming especially when it comes to conditional relationships.

Well, s**t, there you go! All you need to do is advertise this irresistible deal, wait for just the right set of alleles to come along, and the future of your genetic structure is set! It sounds practically no-hassle.

Also, my brain is currently attempting to process if that's hot. I know this is.

Yeah I better get alelle searching, now where is my electron microscope..... Oh yeah, I remember, I focus on physics, not biology! Anyways, I wish I knew some english aspie girls lol, my area seems to be lacking, and I would much rather spend time with an aspie who doesn't care about procreating that a neurotypical who speaks in metaphors and other strange things

Well sam, to answer your original question , if it's not normal, than call me a freak, cause i feel the same way x.x

Of course, part of my problem is I've become so cripplingly shy over the years i couldn't tell a girl i liked her if she point blank said to me that she liked ME. So i guess in my case it's a 'learn to live without what you can't have' thing. Sounds like we've arrived at the same place for different reasons.

Same, I still can't, except maybe over the internet, but that kind of feels weird, generally its the whole make eye contact and make sure her friends arn't anywhere nearby thing