kc8ufv wrote:
Help. I don't know what to do. My girlfriend just dumped me by text message. We were going out for a few months, she kinda kept pressuring for sex the first couple of them, (we would make out in the car, but the farthest that went in the car was frenching and rubbing/sucking each other's nipples, her wanting more...) eventually we spent the weekend at her parents' cottage up north, where we hit a home run on the third night (my delaying. I didn't want the relationship to be based on just sex.) A couple weeks ago, we went to her sister's wedding, and she practically avoided me the whole time. The first night, she decided to sleep on the couch downstairs, (we were staying at her brother's house in her niece and nephew's room.) The second night, she came upstairs to sleep, (no even kissing that night) she was on the top bunk, I was on the bottom, and I woke up with a cramp in my leg (happens from time to time) and was leaning on the top bunk, trying to stretch it out, and she asked me what I was doing. I explained the situation (I don't think she believed me, since the only space for me to do this was about at her legs), and a little while after I had my leg issue taken care of to the point where I could at least go back to bed, she got up, and went in the other room, said I was keeping her up.
Over the past couple weeks (since the wedding) she hasn't really talked to me. When I try calling her, all I get is her voicemail, even when I know her phone should be working, and she hasn't returned my calls, and would rarely return my texts. Normally, she would give rather lengthy responses, while mine were fairly direct. Today, I texted her and asked her how her day was going, and all she responded was "Fine. and yours?" I responded saying it was mostly an OK day, except I was upset my new boss was going to be in the office all week (he was supposed to be at a conference across the country. He needed a certain flight back, though to make a meeting at the end of the week, and waited too long to get his tickets. The new boss has 0 managerial skills, and has a tendency to tick people off.) She never responded to this, despite it most likely being one of the longest messages I've ever sent her. About an hour later, I asked her if she still liked me, and she responded with "Yes. you're still a nice person and I still like you, however it's just about impossible at this point for me to be attracted to you". I asked her if I did anything wrong, and she replied with "You didn't do anything. Really, it's just you are not the right person for me".
What should I do? How can I get over this? Is this why I've avoided relationships for so long?
Nothing but maintain what is just going to friendship at this point, although I think that will also disappear in time. I think it's time to move on. However I think you should of been a little more open and I don't mean chit chat stuff. I mean let loose and just go with it. Also possibly you may of avoided for this reason, depends on what you really feel comfortable with. Anyway, I think you let her down in some like sex which are some of things she wanted as a part of a potential mate. Oh well, at least next time you'll be more aware of these things and be better ready for it. Hope that helps.
18 Aug 2008, 8:40 pm
