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LePetitPrince
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01 Mar 2009, 11:36 am

I was wondering, do you think the typical limited AS' routine is a strong factor for not.

I strongly believe it is, and it's a major factor if not the main factor why so many Aspie males and some females) remain singles.

I posted that to TOS in the other thread:

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Your routine/lifestyle: I said that before , this one is a killer. One of the reasons why I remain single is because I am stuck in a routine, I don't have a car, I have a license yet I didn't drive for ages. I go by taxi from home to work and home to work. During weekend, I occasionally go out with my friends (who are my older brother's best friends) as a "guys group" to movie or to mall or to restaurant , or we meet in someone's home for Xbox 360 challenges. So most of our activities doesn't involve meeting new people , hence no new girls in our life, I don't like go to parties or night clubs. I have also of friends who were former college colleagues, those I see only once per month in some meeting.
I rarely meet new girls in life, and I very rarely ask out one of them, I was used to do that once or twice per year , then how the hell am I supposed to be in relationship? even if I am hot I would have little chance with such routine , let alone if I am not hot.

I am not changing my lifestyle because I honestly not seeking a partner anymore, I might post in this forum a lot but I am just doing for fun. The L&D forum is a passing time game to me and it's not anymore a place where I seek love advices in order to apply them



Are you stuck in such routine? can you describe it? and does it affecting your chances regarding dating?

Do you think it's our main problem? because I strongly believe it is.



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01 Mar 2009, 11:42 am

I think the limited social contact and the "guy's group" are the real problem. Just like how it is difficult for a guy to approach a girl in a group of girls, a girl will not usually approach a guy who is with a group of guys.

However, having a female friend, even if she is platonic, drastically raises a guy's chance of either meeting a girl who is interested, or generating interest in other single women.



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01 Mar 2009, 11:44 am

For f**k's sake Prince, would you please stop putting completely irrelevant and misleading titles on your threads? It just makes me give less of a s**t about what your posts say. If you put what they were actually about in the titles, I'd probably read a lot more of them.



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01 Mar 2009, 11:47 am

^^ sorry, it's a bad habit I developed :P Tricked again? :P



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01 Mar 2009, 11:57 am

Maybe he is in love with a WP member, he just lost the balls to say who it was.


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01 Mar 2009, 12:15 pm

TBH I disagree with you on this one LPP. all the couples that I know met either at work or at school, and the few exceptions that I know have met:

1) on a bus (they used the same bus to work every day for a few months and one day started chatting- hows that for a routine? ;))

2) in a supermarket (where they both shopped regularly after work and bumped into each other a few times before they started talking- again, routine)

3) more "typical" one- in a bar, where we used to go every other Sunday (I was there when they met). the guy had a few drinks for the courage and started chatting to my friend, they got married 16 months later. so again, a routine night out in a quiet bar on a Sunday.


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01 Mar 2009, 12:41 pm

Poopylungstuffing.

(Note : The last social event I went to was a ice cream social, and I came home with a girlfriend.)... Social events sort of suck for that. If I avoid those and the girls at registers in stores I can remain completely and utterly single.



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01 Mar 2009, 1:14 pm

Yes, if you make someone part of your routine, they are in for life.

My SO and I have been together for 9 years. Daily we are part of one another's routine.

He is ASP, too.



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01 Mar 2009, 1:40 pm

benjimanbreeg wrote:
Maybe he is in love with a WP member, he just lost the balls to say who it was.


Oh yes, you just caught me right there. I am in love with you. :lol:



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01 Mar 2009, 2:15 pm

I wouldn't say main problem, it has more to do with fear and awkwardness.
But if you're in a routine that doesn't include meeting girls and you don't break it, then you certainly won't get anywhere.


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01 Mar 2009, 7:49 pm

LePetitPrince wrote:
benjimanbreeg wrote:
Maybe he is in love with a WP member, he just lost the balls to say who it was.


Oh yes, you just caught me right there. I am in love with you. :lol:


I thought that might make you confess :heart: My prince charming lol.


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02 Mar 2009, 2:20 am

anna-banana wrote:
TBH I disagree with you on this one LPP. all the couples that I know met either at work or at school, and the few exceptions that I know have met:

1) on a bus (they used the same bus to work every day for a few months and one day started chatting- hows that for a routine? ;))

2) in a supermarket (where they both shopped regularly after work and bumped into each other a few times before they started talking- again, routine)

3) more "typical" one- in a bar, where we used to go every other Sunday (I was there when they met). the guy had a few drinks for the courage and started chatting to my friend, they got married 16 months later. so again, a routine night out in a quiet bar on a Sunday.


Aren't these coincidences? At least for the first two cases?



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02 Mar 2009, 6:05 am

You really need to try not to make your post titles so misleading, try making them relavent to what you're actually posting them


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02 Mar 2009, 1:20 pm

Pikachu wrote:
You really need to try not to make your post titles so misleading, try making them relavent to what you're actually posting them


Its so everyone opens the thread.


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02 Mar 2009, 2:23 pm

benjimanbreeg wrote:
Pikachu wrote:
You really need to try not to make your post titles so misleading, try making them relavent to what you're actually posting them


Its so everyone opens the thread.


We understand why it was done. That doesn't fix the fact that it's disrespectful to the membership. If you want someone to take the time to read and reply to you, you should be forthcoming in the title of your post.

As for routine, it can be harmful or helpful to the relationship. It can be helpful, if you need to pick up children, get them to activities, etc on a regular basis. It can be harmful if you're in a situation where children, work, or activities don't limit the scope to which you can be spontaneous with your partner and the partner expects some degree of spontaneity.



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02 Mar 2009, 2:26 pm

LePetitPrince wrote:
anna-banana wrote:
TBH I disagree with you on this one LPP. all the couples that I know met either at work or at school, and the few exceptions that I know have met:

1) on a bus (they used the same bus to work every day for a few months and one day started chatting- hows that for a routine? ;))

2) in a supermarket (where they both shopped regularly after work and bumped into each other a few times before they started talking- again, routine)

3) more "typical" one- in a bar, where we used to go every other Sunday (I was there when they met). the guy had a few drinks for the courage and started chatting to my friend, they got married 16 months later. so again, a routine night out in a quiet bar on a Sunday.


Aren't these coincidences? At least for the first two cases?


no. they bumped into each other on a regular basis because their routines collided. how is that a coincidence?


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