Flakey Aspie Girls

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I have noticed that NT women are extremely flakey, especially online. I've tried myspace and many other sites, it seems that they either never reply, or reply once and become uninterested. So I thought aspie women would be different, but it turns out they are exactly the same, they even don't reply to the simplest messages like,..."where can I find this topid at on this site?" ior "Hi I'm such and such,........ when we're you diagnosed?" ...I'm sick of it, women are flakey and shady and never reply, I know they don't owe me a reply, but they don't even consider, I have no friends that are girls because they all think I'm weird, but the open-minded ones are never attractive, but the attractive are always stuck up and flakey and always have a guy talking to them. and also it feels that every attractive aspie girl either doesn't care about dating or talking to guys, a lesbian (so i've heard don't know if it's true), or has a boyfriend or married. It's like being an attractive girl and aspie girl is so easy when it comes to dating, but being an attractive aspie guy like I am, I usually get pretty girls attracted to me, but when they get to know me they think I'm weird. Doesn't matter how weird a girl is, if she is pretty then guys would like her. I think women are more shallow than men to tell the truth, they say they like what's on the inside, but what they like seems to be stupid guys, especially when they are young. Aspie girls too, this one aspie girl who use to write me before she started acting flakey told me that she used to have a bf that beat her and she use to play guys all the time she said "I was a hot aspie"....I'd admit it, I'm hot too, but that doesn't change a thing. Girls still call me weird. If I were a girl in the same body, and had asperger's, I'd be getting guys like it aint nothing. And don't come at me with the confidence thing either because it's BS....why is it that ugly girls don't complain about guys not being confident but pretty girls do????

Here's a pic of me:

Oh man, you're hot and weird? It's times like these I wish I weren't taken.

My advice: try to see the so-called 'unattractive' girls for their minds, not their bodies. Unless, of course, you're talking about their minds and not their bodies. Bodies really don't amount to that much in the mating game, it's only our primate instincts that drive us to chose body over mind. The results are not always fulfilling. In fact, from what I can tell, they very rarely are.

So, if you see a girl who has it all for personality, maybe you can try to work past the superficialities. "If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life, get an ugly woman to be your wife," as has been said. I don't agree with the word 'ugly,' however. Beauty really is in the eyes of the beholder.

To sum that up -- superficiality begets superficiality. It might sound like a nasty thing to say, but really think about it.

That is a great Harry Belafonte song, but Man Smart, Woman Smarter is better...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kTDvCLAT8hg

The fact of the mater is that the mating game is tilted completely in the womans favor in in a civilized world. Sorry guys, thats just the way it is. Civilization came and took our clubs away and its been crazy getting women to the cave ever since.

Don't let anyone fool you that is is a man's world - it ain't. Women have the power and power corrupts. The better the looks, the greater the power. You can do the rest of the math...

I've noticed that too. With phone messages and internet messages.

I always thought it was rude not to reply. I doubted that because so many people don't reply. So I'm glad to know I'm not the only one frustrated but this issue.

I’m used to being ignored by females I don’t even care anymore.

Well if it's from online dating, most people live on a fantasy cloud. They sometimes have no idea what relationship will be like outside of being behind a computer and typing away.

Some people are addicted to hooking up with others online. It's like engaging in phone sex only they have it in their little heads that they "think" they want a real relationship.

It's easier to get rid of someone whereas in real life, it's not that simple.

There is NOTHING civilised about society being anti-male.


In other words, he's not good enough to have the right to be physically attracted to a girl, so he'd better settle for someone he cannot feel attracted to for... what? "Companionship"?


Being stuck with womeone you're not attracted to is hardly fulfilling either!

Edited to correct typos

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I met a girl on one site and she chatted with me a little (very little) and added me on myspace we live about 30 mins apart but she only replies to every other message now... I don't think she's flaky or rude but she does have a BF and I have a feeling that is one factor along with my inability to entice her to talk to me for more than one message... I dunno I guess she's being nice now and either I wasn't what she was hoping or I'm some sort of back up if it doesn't work out with her BF. It's not really important I sent her a message about a week ago she replied and I sent her another basically saying it was good to hear from her and I wanted to talk to her more (not in those exact words of course) in the end it's all up to her whether she wants to talk to me anymore. I'm still working on things to talk about with different women but I'm getting better every time I talk to one the important thing is to take what you did right and keep doing it and what doesn't work change it a little next time and see what happens.

Okay on the first one... have you ever spoken to a woman about how hard it is for them to get a guy? I mean really hot girls don't even get dates all the time I know this well. Women have to do a lot of work that people often don't see because they need to send all the right signals to get the guys they want w/o attracting dangerous ones who might treat them badly (lots of other finer reasons but still the same idea) women need to be understood and men have to go after the ones they understand. It's just set-up so that men have certain responsibilities and women have certain responsibilities and depending on your culture these change. Don't fight the ocean ride the waves if people expect things a certain way just do it you can't change them or their ways and if you want to be with THEM then YOU have to follow their rules.

2nd one... Most aspies have unrealistic views on a woman's physical appearance because we grow up on t.v. and movies showing all the perfect women and we want that and are unwilling to have anything else. All women are beautiful to someone maybe if everyone looked beyond a few small issues you'd see the lovely women all around you. Are you perfect? Do you have abs of steel and big arms with a perfect chiseled face? I doubt it no offense but when an aspie says they want someone they find attractive they discount many attractive women b/c they have a big nose or a bent ear or some acne' just look a little deeper in all women and you'll find many more you'll want to be with.

3rd one is basically the 2nd one with a few different words...

In other words, how hard it is for them to find a guy who's good enough for their ridiculous standards!


What a load of horse-plop: they reject the ones who would be more likely to treat them well in the first place. Then they b***h and moan when they get what's coming to them.


But do they make any effort to understand us?


That could equally be said about most NT guys as well. Besides, in all honesty I can say that what I find attractive (and not so) often doesn't line up with what most guys would. (Although that didn't help me any when I was young.) So I don't think that generalisation's all that accurate (some generalisations give a better picture of the truth than others). [Edited to add:] I resent the suggestion that anyone who doesn't want some totally repulsive is automatically some perfectionist.

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Actually, the very nature of civilization is anti-male.

Maleness is about overt power. That is, aggression, domination, and violence. The very things that are frowned upon in civilized society.
Femaleness is about covert power. That is, charm, subtlety, and seduction. The things that triumph in civilized society.

So - the man that wants to triumph in this woman's world, better learn to play the womans game. Either that or pray for the downfall of civilization and a return to barberic times.

And being angry, seeing everyone against you and finding fault always with others is also bad. People are people they aren't evil I have a feeling arguing with you won't change your views b/c I had them once too until I went out and talked to them. Some are stuck up most aren't... Most are good people who want to be friends with you if you give them a chance doesn't mean they'll date you doesn't mean if they do that you can do whatever you want with them... sigh*.... thing is when I first came on here I heard everything I'm saying and ignored it all b/c I wasn't ready to hear it but now I've learned this much and I intend to go further... The first task is to stop being angry you can't think straight when your mad I know I couldn't...

Friends my arse. They were acquaintances who did not see me as an equal, but as some sort of ret*d to pat on the head and tell "Relationships are a special sort of friendship you're Not Ready For...", whilst all pairing up themselves.


FFS, I never suggested they were!

There is something to what you are saying here. Its that attraction to the bad boy, that always frustrated me.

Back when I was gainfully employed at the big corporation, I had good money and a nice car, a nice apartment. I was always nice and loving and had good maners and.... NO GIRL FRIEND. The girls were always after the broke hordcore druggies that mooched off them and beat them up.

Then they would come to me and b***h about their men.

I used to joke that I was going to quit my job and start using heroin so I could get a girlfriend...

^^^ So perhaps doing well in school, then getting a good job wouldn't have helped after all? Glad I didn't put the effort in, if it was likely to go to waste anyway.

It might help to just be an aspie in forums like this. I post and reply to interesting specific topics and some aspie girl will see what I am about. Though you might not want to do what I do and lose track of whos who online.

Generally, networking and trying to make friends for the sake of making friends might not be as effective as it is in the NT world.

Me being also a extreme aspie I have to avoid turning any subject into a scientific one. Like the future evolution of women who are not selected for their sanity but only their looks, leading to survival-of-the-insane. That equals more insane, beautiful and more sane and level headed aspies; if this isn’t already happening. Didn’t a geek on this site have previous post say something about insane beautiful women; And I deduced it scientifically in 6 minutes. (^_^)



PEACE MAN!

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