Settling down...

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What is a good time in one's life to "settle down"? I keep hearing that most people don't do that until they're well into their 30s, but I feel like the 20-30 age bracket has nothing in particular that I want to experience... Traveling the world used to be a big interest of mine back when I was around 8-12 years old, but not so much anymore... Now the only thing I want in my life is a shred of stability... something that I'm completely lacking right now... and as such, I seem to be the only man in his early 20s looking for a long-term relationship (yes I know that many of the 20s people here are in the same situation, but I'm talking about my experience in real life)...

Is there any place I can go in real life to find like-minded 20somethings that want to not deal with the fast life, and just want to settle down? I think that would be my best chance to find a woman at this point...

i gave up the idea of finding a woman, for now. most women of that age are drawn to big muscles, because they don't yet take the relationships seriously. they start looking at you as the potential father of their offspring only by the age of their late twenties. i can see it now when i am 29. ok, a little exaggerated, but i made my point.
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at least it gave me time to do something with my life.
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btw, i am the only one i know from my peers who didn't settle down yet. i expect to do so around my mid thirties.

^ The people I know are quite the opposite.

It's the men around here who don't seem to want to settle down. Most of the females I know, my age up to mid-twenties, have either already settled down or are frustrated with the fact that they can't find men their age who want that.

I wouldn't say it's a gender thing - it's an individual thing.

you are right, depends on many things. the cultural background, the country you come from, the kind of people you consider your peers.... it will be very different...

There are quite a few people I know who are even younger than me and are married. To me it's no big deal although I know my parents think that marriage is one of those things an adult cannot avoid like death and taxes. To be honest I can't see me getting married. I just cannot grasp the notion of a stranger wanting to share the rest of their life with me. Maybe it's just low self esteem.

I think the problem with 20-somethings is that most of them don't really have their crap together yet, so they don't think about "settling down" very much.

But like many people on the autistic spectrum, I prefer a fair amount of stability and routine, so I can't even imagine living the "fast life."

i love my routine and yet every couple of years i move to different country and have to develop a new routine every time. i combined a routine with excitement of discovering new worlds. after some time the country becomes boring, but my position is about to end anyway, so i look for a new one and as a person on the spectrum i don't have problems to go to any place on the planet since i don't develop emotional attachments to places and things, not even people. i think it works pretty well.

I want to settle down, fine me a decent gal to settle down with... It is all good.

These days, I seem to be finding too many and I can not make up my mind. Rather find a nice gal on the spectrum like me. I can function effective enough to deal with those not on the spectrum and independent and take care of things as such...

Being an Autie with ADHD, suppose it is not that bad. Just got this thing to take care of someone that is lacking when there is not a gal around to take care of.

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why settle down? settling down is boring!

i'd like to settle down with someone, so to speak.. but not just "settle" & do nothing.

Well that's what I'd like to do too, but women my age are all about going out and partying and what not...

well to a certain extent i'd like to go to parties etc but still have a stable, comfortable relationship.. i have no idea what girls want other than "oral pleasure" as mentioned in Pulp fiction.. :p
i like my routines but they are nothing new especially on my own.. maybe with a partner stability would be enough, but right now i crave excitement.

I think the 30's range is perfect, My goal is 35.

Mid-30s is what most normal people want... personally I want to settle down earlier than that (preferably once I become economically independent), but there aren't that many women that want to settle down as early as mid-20s... I don't want to wait 10 years for women to "catch up" to me, as it were...