What excuses could i find to talk to someone?

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I thought about the reasons why i don't have friends and because i don't have a job and i'm not in education, i don't have a reason to meet and talk to people. Most days i won't talk to anyone. So i need some excuses or reasons to talk to people. Any ideas?

shops? talking to shop keepers?
volunteering at an animal shelter or something?
join a club or evening class?

Find out what the weather will be like in the next few weeks or find out how its been affecting people. You could easily look it up, but it's a really popular subject in general, especially in places that are near large bodies of water. It's an easy, issue-neutral topic.

Join a special interest group or something? I don't know what you enjoy, but I bet there's a place out there for it. Good luck to you!

I have no idea. I'm kind of in the same boat.
I moved to my current city 5 years ago, and I don't know anyone.

As they say, join interest groups or when you're at your job or such. When you're there, start out by looking around for something interesting, unusual, or that you are likely to relate on.

For instance, if you worked at a supermarket, you could wait until you had to talk to a colleague for a legitimate reason, like asking for a customer where something is. Then once that's done and you're still standing together, you tell them about a funny customer you had that day: 'at least that request was normal. I got one a few days ago about...'. This then let's them laugh along, and they'll probably have their own story to say.

You tell them 'well, I'd better get back to working - we should carry on talking sometime.' This gives you an opening to talk to them again whenever.

You can do the same in interest groups. For instance, you're in an arts and crafts group working on your projects. You ask the person beside you 'hey, can you pass the glue?' they do. 'Thanks. These things are really hard to stick down, eh? How are you going with your project?' Again, it starts a conversation and at the end you can ask if they want to talk again sometime, or if you see them there regularly just talk there for a while first.

The trick is to say something with a smile on your face - funny, or even laughing at yourself/what you're doing and to open up the line for them to respond. Try to keep the anecdotes short to start with so they can reply, and listen hard to what they're saying - don't feel like you have to respond with a proper sentence.

So - practical small reason, barely linked funny thing, let them reply, continue talk later. That's my formula.

Tell me about it. i moved here a month ago. I work 3 pm to 1 am in construction with a bunch of middle aged men. Never realized how much easier life is socially with school. And i never though i'd say that. I ended up taking a easy A college class to meet some people so that would be my suggestion.

Get a dog to walk. You will meet people.

There's very rarely anything aimed at young folk in terms of local groups i find. I also have dyspraxia so anything that you do with your hands would be a bummer for me.

Volunteering is a great idea, if you have the time and energy! It doesn't have to be something where you're committed to one place for hours at a time. Look up the events that will be happening locally. Things like charity walks for various causes offer lots of volunteer opportunities. You can do anything from handing out t-shirts or bottles of water, to making sure people are on the right path. It's a great way to talk to people and you can have anything from a short, 30 second friendly conversation, to a richer one with people who are feeling chattier.

Thats pretty much it. I only make friends in college or at work.