Causes of social withdrawal - Poll

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I choose the first option
I want to socialise but im unable to
I dont fit in and people reject me outright
I make social mistakes and i am ridiculed

First option, most definetly. I have trouble with spontaneous communication in that spontaneous yet natural way. In have trouble with timing, knowing when to say hi, say a brief comment or start small talk, knowing whether to come up to someone, knowing what to say in return to other people.

I'm a little of both, but more of a "don't want to socialize." I get bored socializing, and feel that my time is being wasted. It's not that rewarding to me. I find that my time alone is richer and more satisfying.

It doesn't mean I don't like people. I care about people as individuals and about society in general. But I don't think that requires me to be with or interact with other people that much. Most of my interaction is online and with one to two people in my personal life. I'm happy with that.

What bothers me most about what the OP complains of is that people assume not wanting to socialize means there's something wrong with you, either that you're depressed or that you're likely to snap and start shooting people. Nope. I'm a pacifist for the most part. I'm against war, between countries and between people. I just work and live better - I'm happier - with infrequent human contact.

Because I spend a lot of time by myself, I find that I enjoy being with people more on the rare occasions that I socialize - as long as it's not some overwhelming sort of gathering, a mob or a loud party. I enjoy chatting with some stranger in line at the post office more than, say, a birthday party.

I personally don't want to socialise. As a child, I didn't really think about other people. I understood that others people are individuals with their own thoughts and feelings but to me they weren't much different from other objects or animals in my environment. Actually, some of the other kids were little better than wild animals but that is beside the point. While I am not so extreme now I still have very little need to be with others.

I do have a few friends but they are very much from shared interests and it is frighteningly easy to let them slip away.

I would like to be more social, not entirely sure I want to have people around constantly but being able to participate in "chit-chat" would be nice. The reason I haven't succeeded well is because after the interaction is over (especially with new people) I tend to over think what I could of said differently or if I came off awkward and "strange". I guess I sort of gave up trying to avoid the after effects...

when people ask you to visit and start going to outings - saying that literally, but when you do they act like the opposite. caution required, very confusing