I need to connect with people quicky

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I need to connect with at least 1 person quickly, ideally a girl.

I never had any solid social experience before.

But now, I feel like I need only 1 week to connect with one person.
I'm not really prepared yet.

What do I do?

I know it sounds like I'm putting the cart before the horse, but I want to connect so I can have a partner/friends with benefits, someone to talk to and just friendship as soon as permits if I connect.

hiya Greeny welcome to our cool club I wish you luck in your connection, that has always been my very weakest spot.

Thing is, I have limited transportation, and so far I'm stuck inside on the computer all day typing this. I need a quick short-term solution for now.

Unfortunately, if you can't get to this girl easily, it won't work. Do you at least have a bike? I am actually going to make custom hand forged knifes and tools, and sell them on etsy for a pricey amount, perhaps sell stock blades on amazon. This will at least provide money from which I can slowly grow into a small business. As long as you have money, you can get drivers training, your license, and such. I passed the written test on the first day, but never got to driving because I didn't practice. Try getting a motorized-bicycle, or a moped. Even a bike will help, as long as you have a back pack. If you have a job, you shouldn't be in much of a problem right now. Once you have all this, go, and start having some fun, and the girls in the same area who like the same thing will be there at some point, and you just have to strike up a conversation. There is no short term solution, but I understand your concern completely, except I wish to find a long term relationship, which I am willing to wait for.

Hey man. if you live in Flagstaff, Arizona I'm down for Friendship. Stop on by anytime, I'm easy going and drama free.

I don't know if there's such a thing as a quick short-term solution. Friendships don't just happen because you make up your mind you want friends. You have to find people first. Then you have to get to know them. A quick solution maybe you can find someone to talk to, but that's not necessarily going to be satisfying if you don't connect emotionally or at least have something you're both interested in to talk about.

It really has to be a girl? You want a friendship with a sexual component? Why can't you just settle for a friend without benefits? If you're lacking friends and you're also in need of a romantic partner that makes sense. If you won't allow yourself to satisfy your need for friendship if you can't satisfy your other need with the same person you're limiting yourself. Don't turn your back on a possible friendship just because it's not meeting your need for romance.

Hey Greeny, I think most guys/girls want to instantly become fantastic Casanova charismatic players with some good friends. However I would advise to not try rushing into to things, making long-term friends usually takes a long term time frame of 2 weeks- 1 month or more for those with normal level social skills. In order to accelerate your social skills start slow and preferably with someone of the same sex. You have to know the value yourself before others can value you. Start my learning basic social skills, practice initiating conversations and maybe even getting your parents/siblings involved (they will be excited about your steps towards becoming a better communicator). Once you build up your base of basic values and virtues through constant practice, you will experience less social anxiety,show more confidence and more ideas in your head to help you communicate.

Remember its not always about what you want from others, you cannot expect people to quickly become your friends because you want to. Instead focus on sharing interests and acting like a chill and fun person people find trustworthy and friendly. I think that you are going through the phase where you think that hanging out with a sociable member of the opposite sex will magically change who you are, transforming you into someone different and sociable. However my friend, you should not rush things because like I found out, it is not that easy and you will be hurt and disappointed with failures and lack of significant progress. Constantly engage yourself in new and out of your comfort zone scenarios gradually and you will find that you will not only have one but many good friends.