Animosity from merely not saying anything

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Oh yes, encountering others you know without saying anything. That's so common with me that I'm totally use to it. It doesn't even faze me anymore. I pass by others I know all the time and don't say a word. It's not that I don't like them, it's that I never know what to say and if they don't say anything to me, then I assume that means they don't want to say anything. I can only speak when spoken to. That's the way my brain is programmed.

"Silence is not a crime; if you feel like you've nothing timely or appropriate to say, then don't say anything."

That is actually a line from my own Code of Conduct. Hope it helps!

Lovely. I've always thought pretty much the same: "If one has nothing to say, then, please, don't say it!"

Regards,

Patricia

Yeah, and act like a weird aspie, good plan. A passing "Hey!" or "Sup!" is never wrong, especially if you clearly see each other passing by

But that's the thing; what if you don't see the other person passing by?

I know that I, personally, do not pay attention to people. I pay attention to the inanimate objects around me. So if an acquaintance were to walk by, I would not notice.

Even if I did see the other person, I'm usually too involved in deep thought to get my brain to send the command to form my mouth and throat muscles into the correct shape and breath out enough air to utter a meaningless greeting.

It is an awful slight in my line of work..helping run a venue..I seem to really manage to weird-out/alienate people...particularly those in travelling bands...if I don't muster some form of greeting at the proper time...and/or make some attempt to interract.

I managed to alienate 2 whole bands tonight at least...Because I didn't say "Hello My Name is ---" Blah blah..

At out old location, I had a speech worked out and would give the same speech to everyone like I was some sort of tour guide...At our new location..things are different and it makes the way I interract with people different and I have not quite worked out the best way to go about it.

Similarly... and ironically, I feel awkward sometimes when some people don't speak to me...I am sure I set myself up for it, but i will slightly obsess on what it is that gives them the aversion to talking to me.

A visiting girl from a fellow local DIY establishment came in//and she talked a whole lot to Flakey and to Louie our sound guy...but gave me the stony silence even though I made an attempt to interract....FLakey said she was just shy...but I got paranoid, because there had been other girls from the same place who had come in to sell stuff on a table, and they were the same way...interracting only with the males and avoiding me.