Some people who have lots of friends, their 'friends' are really acquaintances or they are even being used if they see a lot more value in the friendship/relationship than there actually is. The hardest things I've had to encounter with all this friend stuff is pressure from my family to try to be normal (big mistake and just dumb) and figuring out who is just an acquaintance, how to deal with that kind of stuff, and how to form real friendships. If you're not sure of something, it's generally going to be a person that will be just an acquaintance. Don't push acquaintances away but just use them for what you can. And don't feel bad about doing that because they will only do the same for you. You can always be open to the possibility of a deeper friendship later on, but remember that a true friendship goes both ways- they have to earn your trust and liking and you must do the same for that person.
If you're in a situation with no friends, focus on interests and joining/finding organizations and events to suit your interests. Easier said than done, I know.
27 Jun 2010, 7:06 pm
