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AspieUtah
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16 Feb 2015, 4:45 pm

My friends blow up my computer and phone with messages when they want something from me (rides, money, coffee or food), but tell me that their phones were "off" just whenever I call them. :roll: I wonder if they know that I ignore them for the same number of days that they ignored me. I use them same kind of lame excuse: "busy and away from keyboard." That's right: I give it right back at them.


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16 Feb 2015, 8:08 pm

AspieUtah wrote:
My friends blow up my computer and phone with messages when they want something from me (rides, money, coffee or food), but tell me that their phones were "off" just whenever I call them. :roll: I wonder if they know that I ignore them for the same number of days that they ignored me. I use them same kind of lame excuse: "busy and away from keyboard." That's right: I give it right back at them.


I never ignore my friends, even if they ignore me. If the phone rings or I get a text from a friend I will answer it as soon as I see it. I wonder if that makes me a panzy, or however you spell panzy.



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16 Feb 2015, 8:28 pm

mistersprinkles wrote:
I never ignore my friends, even if they ignore me. If the phone rings or I get a text from a friend I will answer it as soon as I see it. I wonder if that makes me a panzy, or however you spell panzy.

It doesn't make you a pansy. And, I wouldn't expect you or others to have my reaction to friends ignoring me. But, for me, after years of being used as a chauffeur and breathing ATM, it gets tedious to continue being nice when what I get in return is conditional friendships. I realize that it is my fault and that I should simply avoid them, but I sometimes do appreciate the brief visits that I share with my friends.


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