"Get yourself a date then."

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I agree with all of what you said. I am NT who has the same thoughts. Glad to know someone else thinks as I do.

Wow very profound statement. I never thought of it they way you put it into words but I think that is how I feel to with someone who was in my life. De-prioritised. I so enjoyed reading what you wrote.

I always have a hard time when a close friend of mine finds a special someone and they don't have time for me anymore.

In fact, when my childhood friend was dating, I retaliated with her too.

I just don't get why people do that, ignore their friends just for their special someone. It's like they threw you away as garbage and moved on with their lives, delete everyone they knew and concentrate on the special someone instead.

Yeah my "friends" were the same way. Once they got into a relationship it was like I vanished from existence. Oh well the jokes on one of them: him and his girlfriend had a nasty breakup not long after jettisoning me from his life. Looked good on him!

It think it is tougher for someone on the Autism Spectrum who struggles so hard to make friends and keep them and it was true when I was in my mid to late teens to my late 20's. Either way, it still is nasty though.

I remember specifically when my childhood friend first seemed to keep throwing me away like I was garbage when she met her first boyfriend. It hurt really bad and I did not know why she was all of a sudden pulling a 180 on me because I thought she was my friend.

She practically went from being my trusted best friend to being a total jerk who only would contact me when she wanted something (This included calling me up to ask her boyfriend out for her because she was too scared to do it herself).

Suddenly, she seemed to think that she was better than I was because she was acting like a teenager and I still enjoyed cartoons and other things like that while functioning like a child in her eyes. So, she began making fun of me. Then there were times when I would call and she would act severely passive aggressive. (One time I called her up and she gave me a "You have the wrong number," and then hung up. When I called her out, it was, "I had a lot of homework to do." Another time I called her up and she put a load of food in her mouth and said, "I'm eating).

Back then I did not have any social skills or the maturity that I do today and so I retaliated by leaving silly messages on their answering machine whenever they went out of town because they went camping a lot.

Anyway, there was this one weekend where they were gone and I decided to leave my usual messages. They came home and I had gotten a call from my friend and she was calling me out on the carpet about it. Then she explained to me that her parents chosen to ground her for ignoring me and mistreating me which lead to my retaliating. My thoughts to that were "Yay," which led me to laugh about it for a whole week. I remember bragging, "Hey, I got my best friend grounded and she deserved it."