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10 Apr 2016, 8:56 am

cavernio wrote:
I find it amusing that some people here are calling out people for not being 'real' friends because they seem to only be friends when it benefits them, and then some people here describing themselves as being exactly that type of friend. :wink: '


Lol!

Speaking for myself, I can say that I'm a truly terrible friend. I often forget to get back with people for a really long time, and then when I do I talk for way too long.

I also don't usually read back over what I've written or what other people have written so I might respond incorrectly to something, which is irritating to some people.



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11 Apr 2016, 8:35 am

cavernio wrote:
I find it amusing that some people here are calling out people for not being 'real' friends because they seem to only be friends when it benefits them, and then some people here describing themselves as being exactly that type of friend. :wink:

I think you need to find what works for you friendship-wise.

For me, I would not start using another app besides facebook for people who weren't already very close to me. Then again, I'm not good at making new friends. At all. I seem to by and large to have grown friendships out of 'oh, you're friends with this friend of mine. You seem cool, ok, we can be friends too.'


I think many of the people here have been hurt in a way and as a result have resorted to that line of thinking. Then again having people serve whatever purpose they serve online is not the same thing as being an opportunist offline. Chances are if you're online everyday then you talk to your "online friends" on a fairly regular basis so for that, it serves a purpose to you and probably the other person as well assuming they are also very active online. Offline however, people are in and out, fair weather friends, and all and yet through all that the same people who experience these issues are suppose to exhibit that kind of faith in humanity ...