16 Dec 2007, 8:21 pm
Brittany2907
The ultimate storm is eternally on it's
Joined: 9 Jun 2007
Age: 34
Gender: Female
Posts: 4,718
Location: New Zealand
17 Dec 2007, 5:12 am
I agree with this statement.
Being around people who like to constantly go out to places, like to talk about the most pointless things and expect you to be interested is all too much sometimes.
Although, if you only stay around people who aren't "normal" either, then what are you achieving?...nothing
. I mean, sure, it's a friendship...but being around people who aren't normal either is not really helping you improve your social skills as theirs might not be the best either so there for they wont be able to help you try to fit in, if you get what I mean.
I am not saying to avoid people who may be different, but just try to be open minded about who you can be around.
Saying this, I am being a hypocrite, as I seem to only talk to people who aren't 100% "normal"...not out of choice, they are the only people who will accept me
...but they're really nice 
17 Dec 2007, 9:52 am
(Er, well, I know you've been around here a lot longer than I have; but what the hell.) I've found that many of the people here have interesting and beautiful minds; I've found a few kindred spirits I've taken a liking to. But, if you don't mind me drilling into this, why is lack of friends so distressing for you? Is it a loneliness thing? It is feelings of inadequacy or being abnormal? Unlikable? All of the above?
I'm usually quite happy sitting on my computer instead of going out. It's just when I do go out, or go to websites like Bebo, MySpace, etc, and see people with lots of friends I get really envious and start feeling inadequate. Then I get depressed, wishing I could be "normal" like them.
I'm pretty much the same way & have great difficulty socializing & as a result it's left me seriously depressed to the point that I'm now in therapy & on medication. I just hate being like this & really wish that things will change soon but I know that in order for that change to occur I've got to make an effort to work on it.
17 Dec 2007, 2:33 pm
lotuspuppy
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Joined: 14 Jan 2008
Age: 37
Gender: Male
Posts: 995
Location: On a journey to the center of the mind
20 Jan 2008, 1:39 am
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23 Jan 2008, 2:43 pm
It's so odd reading things that I could easily have written myself.
I'm lucky in that I have a boyfriend so I have at least one person that I can rely on. I go through phases of really not caring that I'm so unpopular and then being quite depressed and blaming myself for it.
However, today I watched a TV show called "Living on the Edge" about a group of late-teens living in the affluent area of Alderley Edge. On the surface, they had it all. No need to work, their own cars and holiday homes, and loads of friends. They spent most of their time on the phone or meeting up with people. But in just a 30 minute show I was so thankful that I don't have their lives. Their friendships are based entirely on appearance and making it seem like you give a damn about each other. Their romantic relationships were about as strong as soggy tissue paper. I didn't once hear them talk about anything other than their own shallow lives.
So maybe having loads of friends isn't all it's cracked up to be. You have to be constantly checking that you're still friends and you have to go out whenever they ask you to. And most people are dull. Very, very dull.
I really hope that you can get to a point where you're okay with your situation, or better yet, find one truly brilliant person who you can trust.
P.S. You may be thinking, Why the hell did you watch that? Well, I'm ill damn it!
blakehaven
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Joined: 6 Feb 2008
Age: 37
Gender: Male
Posts: 33
Location: Toronto, Ontario, Canada
10 Feb 2008, 3:06 am
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