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26 Apr 2008, 12:28 am

A lot depends on the circumstances, as other people have said. There are different ways of standing up for yourself.
Don't underestimate the power of humor. If you can belittle the bully in a mocking way, it totally takes the wind out of their sails.

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26 Apr 2008, 9:48 am

Anna4077 wrote:

Especially if your bullies don't have much wit in them.

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26 Apr 2008, 10:24 am

Spokane_Girl wrote:

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I like picking on a**holes and ripping on some of them. That's how much I hate them.

So you bully them back?

Yes. They deserve no respect.

I'm working on this. I used to go "full bore" to make people miserable who took advantage. It's an obsessive behavior that needs moderation. I'm expert at nailing people. You would be surprised how many non-Aspies leave gaping holes in their defenses! I mean things like illegal unlicensed business activities, building codes, OSHA violations, invalid contact info on an internet domain (great for you owning their domain), building a complaint website with their name .com, professional board and regulatory complaints, embarrassing them in public (in a legal manner). It is ESSENTIAL to stop when you've gotten your point across.

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27 Apr 2008, 1:29 am

Brittany2907 wrote:

It depends on the type of harrassment.

Sometimes I just ignore it and other times I stand up for myself and tell them that they are pathetic losers who have no self respect...at other times i just get plain nasty. I wont be a "doormat".

You ever unloaded on the wrong person by mistake?

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27 Apr 2008, 1:30 am

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I just try to keep my distance from anyone who seems likely to do it...

And how do you determine that?

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27 Apr 2008, 1:31 am

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Me too.

Thank you.

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27 Apr 2008, 1:33 am

EvilKimEvil wrote:

It depends on the situation.

If I can choose to avoid the individual from then on, I will. I will cease to answer his/her phone calls and do whatever else I can to block contact.

If it is someone with whom I must continue to interact, I try to stand my ground firmly. I make it clear that nothing they do can affect me. I make light of the situation whenever possible, as if it is funny that they are trying so hard to f**k with me and not succeeding. If I ever were to retaliate, I would do so with a harmless, funny prank. Something that would be memorable but would not do any damage. Humor is a good way to rise above difficult situations and it tends to make people respect you.

It can be, depending on how mature the prank is.

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27 Apr 2008, 1:34 am

Spokane_Girl wrote:

Lot of people seem to like how I stand up for myself. That's how my karma went up on I2 but there are some people who think I should be weak by letting them walk all over me meaning not do anything. I guess they want me to be weak and be helpless and because I refuse to not do anything, they see it as pathetic. Maybe it's because they;re bullies themselves? After all bullies don't like it when their victims stand up for themselves so they will try and hurt them by putting them down by what they are doing like telling them they're stupid or they're pathetic.

Name calling is a tactic that only bullies use, but when they do they project themselves onto you.

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27 Apr 2008, 1:35 am

Anna4077 wrote:

And if they are genuinely kidding with you, they'll like it.

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27 Apr 2008, 1:37 am

tailfins1959 wrote:

Spokane_Girl wrote:

morning_after wrote:

Spokane_Girl wrote:

I like picking on a**holes and ripping on some of them. That's how much I hate them.

So you bully them back?

Yes. They deserve no respect.

Yes, i have to agree.

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27 Apr 2008, 9:03 am

morning_after wrote:

Name calling is a tactic that only bullies use, but when they do they project themselves onto you.

Always?

So a person who spies on others is not a creep?

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27 Apr 2008, 4:25 pm

Spying is not necessarily name calling.

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27 Apr 2008, 7:13 pm

morning_after wrote:

Spying is not necessarily name calling.

Okay...spying on you (in your house) and calling cowardly calling you names. :roll:

The spying thing is illegal in that sense, you know.

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01 May 2008, 2:44 pm

indeed us with asperger's should use our wit against them
make them look stupid, or say sometihng funny that makes them look like a ret*d assfuck
while you look like the one playin it cool

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01 May 2008, 7:52 pm

Nah, that would just come back to haunt us Aspies.

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02 May 2008, 11:26 am

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Nah, that would just come back to haunt us Aspies.

vhat vould

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