Types of Bad Friends.

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I wanna say that there are no such thing as "bad friends" just like there are no such thing as "good enemies". If someone continually does something to hurt, vex, and take advantage of you, then he/she is NOT a friend.

IMO, the worst among the types of bad people in the list are leechers, selfish people, and the unreliable friends. I've had painful experiences in which I call people and ask them if we could meet somewhere and hang out. They would joyfully say yes. The next day, I call them again to make sure they're really gonna meet me somewhere, but they don't answer my calls. In other words, they've suddenly changed their plans without informing me.

ya i encountered such people
and i am surprised that such people exsist...............
this is not earth.......its a hell
its no fun living here

You can still care for the well-being of another person even though you have judged them to be unworthy as a friend in your life. You can also judge them to fall into one of the above categories, but not feel that it's worth discontinuing the friendship - it's just something to be weary of when dealing with that person. I always have hope that a person will change for the better, but that doesn't mean I always want them to do so anywhere near me. They can go do their changing over there -->> if it's really bad.

Yes, finding someone worthy is difficult, and it saddens me that this is the truth of the human race.

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Crazygirl79, what an amazing post. I really like how well you've categorized the bulk of the issues I've dealt with both with others and sometimes within myself. Thank you for such an insightful post.

Yes you are right if someone continues to do those bad things then you would have to question your friendship with them along with their interpretation of friendship because everyone has a different idea of what a friendship is, sometimes even though you get one person who continually does s**t to you there may be cases where they aren't aware of the impact of their behaviour unless it's pointed out to them and if thats the case those people can be given another chance but if someone continues to do s**t to you and they are aware of it then you probably need to consider ending that friendship.

What I'm trying to say is it's not always straight forward in every case.


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Well said NicoleG!!

I'll add more to that, even if you do decide to end a friendship with someone it doesn't automatically mean you'll stop caring for them or thinking about them because they had something that led you to develop a friendship with them at least in the beginning but somewhere along the way you have come across some qualities and/or repetitive bad behaviours in that person and one day you realise that you can no longer tolerate it anymore because it's having a negative impact on your life in someway and you know it's unlikely that this person will change anytime soon so you move on from the friendship.

My Swinger friend who I described earlier in this thread was a warm, intelligent and caring person as well as unique which led me to develop this friendship and for a while it worked out fine, we saw one another at college, I looked after her animals a couple of times and I visited her a few times but as time went along I was starting to see that she was someone who made all these wild arrangements but could never stick to them, I tolerated this because I am aware that she has Bipolar and that this sometimes impacts her life in different ways but when she became abusive towards me on Facebook just before I deactivated my account I decided around that time that as much as this person had attractive qualities I needed to move on from the friendship because all the depressing stuff she was going on about was bringing me down and the abuse just topped it off so to speak. Yes I was disappointed, yes I was a little bit hurt but it was for the best and I don't regret the decision.

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You know, I thought the same thing. What friend doesn't at least kinda fit into one of these categories?

But... yeah, all those things bother me too. I've even been a few of those.

I had a friend who couldn't stop giving me advices. I don't see him anymore thank goodness. Thing is, the guy was cheating on his wife with every woman he could get his hands on, and I said nothing to him. He also has a short attention span. I spoke to him and he was barely listening most of the time. But he was always giving me advices. I don't see him again, fortunately.

I have also had many friends who are going nowhere in life. You cannot start a business with them because they are lazy bums or won't commit to anything. This is the main reason why I am alone most of the time.

I have encountered the whiner. Always whining and bitching about everything, and I mean everything. I had a friend who wouldn't stop whining unless he had sex with a woman and then get drunk. He wouldn't be happy unless he woke up the next day totally hammered.

Personally, I am a mixture of the Whiner and the Paranoid. Can anyone blame me? I don't think so.