Does aspergers get harder as you get older?

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I think it was a lot easier when I was little because it wasn't hard to play with other kids. They are playing jump, you play the game too or you all play on the swings or play ground and that was simple and playing tag. I had that ability but when I got to around 4th grade it started to get hard because interests changed, kids start to just chit chat and I always found that boring. I was never interested in what they talked about. They were also in a rush to grow up. I was still that little girl and I got left behind socially. All of a sudden I had very poor social skills so it was like I had regressed. I didn't know how to approach people anymore. When I was little I would just follow them if I wanted a new friend and that didn't go well either most of the time and even my own so called friends hated when I followed them. I realize now them telling me to not follow them was them rejecting me and I didn't know that then. By 6th grade I was all isolated from my peers because no one wanted me around. Social rules change and so do kids because they get into small talk and social chit chat and just talk about things they don't care about. I think it's a lot easier to make friends as a child than it is as a adolescent or adult. I can go to social groups and not be able to make a friend. I have gone to video game groups and aspie groups play groups and no friends still. I have talked to people yes so it's like I can have conversations off and on depending on what we talk about. But I can just talk about something I know nothing about or can't relate to or when something isn't my interest. Plus I still get too self conscious because I don't want to do anything wrong.

I also had an easy time before the age of 13 because everyone liked Disney things as well as sharing everything in common. Especially a close childhood friend. All of that changed when she suddenly got into boys at age 12 next to putting on make up and growing up. Suddenly she was making fun of me and giving me the hint that he didn't want to hang out or talk on the phone as much because she didn't want to hear my limited interests. (The same topic over and over again).

During Jr High
1. Kids teased me until they discovered that I had a gift in singing
2. I was friend with two distinct people who I connected with.
A. 7th Grade I associated with another female that fell apart by the end of the year because I said something to make her cry along with having our teachers, para's and parents get mad. She was also bitter at me for a long time
B. I connected with a male student during 7th grade in art class and we hung out through all of 8th grade
3. During 9th grade they both bonded and suddenly showed a lack of interest in me as well as think they were so much more mature than I was.

High school and my early twenties were hard because
1. They could find something to date and I could not get a date if I tried
2. No one was interested in coming to my parties

For me, it has become exponentially more difficult. I'm 34, and I'd wager a guess that (as far as relationship/friendship) I'm about 14 years old, and I've been there a while.

I have three friends. One is a drunk, one is 12 years younger than I and the last is bat s**t insane (even by my standards).

Oh there I go again with not checking my errors and that is what is wrong with WP is that you can't go back and correct those mistakes to sound more professional.

'He should have been 'she.
Think should have been thought