Do you ever like to burn bridges?

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Jeepers. You sound like the a**hole :/

I know how you feel though, fake friends are really annoying.

@jerry00

I'm fairly certain connecting on Facebook with old friends is about seeing what they're up to and nothing more in most cases. I think your expectancy that they should be friends with you isn't very grounded and is at odds with how the social media website is used by most. Also, some people add you simply to boost their number. The number of Facebook friends having value for some people in terms of self worth etc.

Nice wording, hit the nail on exactly what I thought.

I both drift and burn bridges. Recently, I drifted and really hurt someone. I was very confused and didn't know how to act. I felt awful I hurt someone like that, but she didn't understand. Today, I burned a bridge in a good way, and he understood. He was a great friend, but could not be fully around me much, which upsets me. I also burn bridges of someone crosses a big moral red line for me. I'm very empathetic, but will not pretend someone isn't a bigot for THEIR sake.

I don't like burning bridges, per se, but I do it. When I cut people out, I cut them out completely.

Absolutely, some people are like that. This girl I knew added me, I was so happy, I tried to talk to her, but was stone walled every damn time, so I deleted her, and she added me back, so I tried again, more of the same old cold shoulder. So I said: listen, you added me, either start talking, or delete me, because I don't have time for this crap.

Maybe that makes me an a**hole, but why should I treat someone with respect if they won't respect me. I have a learning disability and she doesn't. She shouldn't f**k with me because it's not right.

Other people, I have just completely lost it and said insane and hurtful things, but I don't regret it, because at the end of the day, the feelings of hurt and isolation that make me say these things are still real, and I still have a right to feel them, even if they don't like it (especially if they don't like it). People get so stuffy about someone who is upset, as if it was the worst thing in the world to have normal human feelings and share them with others. And if they wanted me to be happy, they could maybe try doing something nice to me for a change.

I've burnt so many bridges in my lifetime.

I have no regrets though.

There is a lot of smoking embers, charcoal and wide impassable gaps behind me, plenty of regrets too

When I was a teenager I had a best friend that rather deliberately drifted away. I was hurt and annoyed, but fortunately I did not get nasty about it (that I am aware of, anyway).

Now flash forward to last year - I stumbled across him on the internet and we had a polite and casual exchange of one or two emails - no more than that. Turns out he still works in the same field we both did back in the day, so who knows whether some project may come up on which we can work together in the future.

That was a 40 year timespan. I burned more than one bridge while a teenager; I am glad that was not one of them.

I understand where you are coming from. When people aren't being straight with you, you can't really tell if there is something there or not or if people are just blowing you off. I've experienced this many times myself. As far as burning bridges, I just seem to do it by simply existing. I don't even have to actively burn a bridge; by and large, people simply do not care, period.