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When it was just him and myself we were fine but if you add the other two they behave like a clique. One of them thought she was a queen bee too. I did not room with them the first time because the queen bee would was too stingy let anyone else in who didn't pay for the room. I thought they were cliquey the first time but then I found out that I was next in line since one of their roommates was evidently trouble . He was much nicer to me too. This last experience with him did not make me feel comfortable.

I really wanted to connect with that queen bee because he thought we would hit it off due to similar interests. No we didn't. She did several things that drove me nuts.

What did she do that drove you nuts?
A lot of people are funny about money. They may feel that you are taking advantage of them when you do not pay. I had a roommate offer me food than when I accepted his offer he berated me for saying yes, why ask? Thought he was being nice. Maybe it was the same with this woman?
People trying to impress will often ignore the person, who they are often nice to in other situations, will ignore you so they would aprear cooler to said group.
Got to love human behavior.

1. She was very opinionated and thought that she knew it all
2. She often shot me down every time I opened my mouth
3. She was touchy
4. Everything was her way or the highway.


For instance the four of us were going out to eat on the first night inside the hotel at our restaurant and he and I did a selfie. I started singing a parody of "Do you want to Build a Snowman?" with "Do you want to do a selfie?" She cut me off with "No...no Frozen. I am tired of that movie."

Then I saw her going gung ho over someone's Anna Costume in the dealer's room when she was trying to get her way in getting what she wanted.

Another example
They were talking about some fanfics with Bowser from Super Mario Brothers and I brought up a character called "Annoying Orange" because I wanted to talk about something that I thought was funny. Before I could go further she was very curt about it. "I have seen him but don't bring it up anymore." I thought "Well excuse me for breathing. What's wrong with you?"

A final one was-
We were talking about cosplays and make up since she was getting ready by doing all the make up herself. I was talking about a time where I did a vulcan and the my own make up as well. I happened to make a comment about vulcans being space elves. She was sure they were not and assured me that they were something else.

That was it for me.

Yeah that sounds like classic alpha female ego driven superiority establishment behavior.

The last time I saw her she tried to say hi to me in a friendly voice which was hours after she was super upstart with me in our hotel room.

He was pretty fresh with me as well that morning and that's when I knew that I had to ignore them.

I have had situations similar where a another guy should have gotten along with didn't. Competition maybe? Maybe your friend mentioned something to her and she decided to tome it down.

After being talked to like that I openly told them in the hotel that morning that it was not working out for me to room with them. I said that I am sorry but I am not a video game person and preferred anime and science. I also said that if I had a choice it would be in a hotel room alone.

I went into the bathroom to change my clothes and sure enough they started whispering. I went back out and they completely ignored me and paid more attention to their cell phones. I said "Well have a good day" and walked out and slammed the door behind me. I was very hurt, in spite of that, they appeared to be in their own little world. This caused a huge amount of oblivion from their side. He was still baffled.


As for the queen bee, I felt like she didn't like me from day 1, which was at last year's con. I told him that at the holiday party and his response was pretty frosty. "I going to remain neutral on that one."

It is possible that really did not feel about the situation.
When I am hurt by other people's actions I tend to put a lot more time on what happened then I really should. I look at each individual scenario and see how I was mistreated. A lot of the time I was mistreated, but often I am the one going over it in my mind, replaying what has happened and how the person wronged me. Often this amount to of brain power that expend on what happened is not really worth. I assumed that the person that offended me moved on without much of a blink of an eye.
Another thought about guy paying attention to the other women, although it is really rude, and inconsiderate to do, he already knew how you felt about him and figured he might have a shot with the other women...shows he cares not a wit about others and only about himself.
I am always on the look out for good anime. PM me any good titles, The Death Note and Ghost in A Shell are the kind that I am into, but would consider others with really good writing.