People who keep the conversation going.

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So I was talking to a friend and I posted a chat log I had with a girl I want to date and she said "why do you always keep the conversation going?" is this wrong? I never heard of this being bad ever. I just have one more thing to worry about now. Also is it better to say something like "hey hows it going" instead of just hi?

I can only refer to myself. If I keep the conversation going, that means Im nervous of its getting silent. When its silent it can feel umcomfortable as you dont know where you have the other person or if he/she like your company. So that makes one keep talking, like to entertain unconsciously.
But I know that in many cases you can benefit a lot to allow yourself to stay silent without freaking out. In fact the most succesful social meetings is those where you feel confident enough to have silent moments and have each other as passive company.
I have such a chatfriend. We can both be on MSN, knowing we are there but stay silent towards each other for longer moments and that feels perfectly okay. Then out of the blue someone of us say something and we talk for a while until we gets silent again.
For this you need to know a person a bit better and feel comfortable in the company. This can work both IRL and online.

So to respond such a question. Analyse the word WHY. Is you nervous? do you worry about the person dont like you? It doesnt have to be wrong but both sides have to be okay with the balance in the talkings. So maybe your friend request some silent moments? Then agree and try to work with feeing okay with it.

If it's clear that the other person wants the conversation to end by saying "I have to go soon," or "It's been great talking to you," let it end. Otherwise, I can't think why it would be a problem to let the conversation continue.