Difficult People

Page 1 of 1 [ 9 posts ]

Joined: 8 Jun 2010
Age: 34
Gender: Male
Posts: 236

14 Jun 2010, 7:04 pm

So today i went to my disability meeting with my mom and the counselor guy was a jerk. He got all in my face and stuff. I was feeling razor bump on my neck and he said "stop picking at your neck in front of me" and I said "I hate it when people tell me what to do with my body it's my body". He said "im not telling you, I'm asking. see that's the thing with young people they take things too personal". I am majoring in spanish linguistics, and I know damn well the difference between a command and a request. He did not ask, he commanded. if he would have asked he would've said "can" or "could" in front of the sentence. He starts going on to say "you can fins another counselor, I had a problem with a guy earlier today and I told him I wasn't gonna do some things for him". He is not a real counselor, he is someone who works for a disability place that helps me pay for school stuff, so that's why this situation is so important.

He's basically trying to upset me so he doesn't have to do anything because he's lazy. People always try to upset me for some reason. I thought of something really smart to say back, but I didn't because I felt a meltdown coming on. I hate difficult people

pyzzazzyZyzzyva
Pileated woodpecker

Joined: 23 Apr 2010
Age: 38
Gender: Male
Posts: 194

14 Jun 2010, 7:18 pm

If you face the same difficult situation with everybody, it may not be them...

Treehugger
Yellow-bellied Woodpecker

Joined: 25 May 2010
Age: 63
Gender: Female
Posts: 53

14 Jun 2010, 7:52 pm

Soledad wrote:

So today i went to my disability meeting with my mom and the counselor guy was a jerk. He got all in my face and stuff. I was feeling razor bump on my neck and he said "stop picking at your neck in front of me" and I said "I hate it when people tell me what to do with my body it's my body". He said "im not telling you, I'm asking. see that's the thing with young people they take things too personal". I am majoring in spanish linguistics, and I know damn well the difference between a command and a request. He did not ask, he commanded. if he would have asked he would've said "can" or "could" in front of the sentence. He starts going on to say "you can fins another counselor, I had a problem with a guy earlier today and I told him I wasn't gonna do some things for him". He is not a real counselor, he is someone who works for a disability place that helps me pay for school stuff, so that's why this situation is so important.

He's basically trying to upset me so he doesn't have to do anything because he's lazy. People always try to upset me for some reason. I thought of something really smart to say back, but I di dn't because I felt a meltdown coming on. I hate difficult people

Soledad, You are Absolutly Right, in saying His lack of using 'Can or Could' shows that this was a 'Command' Not a Request. There are various [ linguajes] or 'languages' that use 'Command statements' to command every one from a Soldier,subordinate,to even a Pet to Do or Not Do something. Maby showing Him a linguistics paper that has these rules of Language would help. If He still wants to act like a Person [sen corizon por humanidad] ,then maby Talk to His Boss.

conundrum
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 25 May 2010
Age: 47
Gender: Female
Posts: 2,922
Location: third rock from one of many suns

14 Jun 2010, 9:06 pm

Soledad wrote:

He is not a real counselor, he is someone who works for a disability place that helps me pay for school stuff, so that's why this situation is so important.

He's basically trying to upset me so he doesn't have to do anything because he's lazy. People always try to upset me for some reason. I thought of something really smart to say back, but I didn't because I felt a meltdown coming on. I hate difficult people

What a jerk.

Yeah, he's trying to rile you up so he can blame it all on you.

And yes, in ANY language, that WAS worded as a command.

I agree with Treehugger that you should complain to his boss/supervisor. He is being completely unprofessional.

I hope you can find a different counselor--a REAL one this time who isn't a total...about to say something that could get me banned...sorry. :evil:

Try not to take it personally--he probably does this to everyone.

_________________
The existence of the leader who is wise
is barely known to those he leads.
He acts without unnecessary speech,
so that the people say,
'It happened of its own accord.' -Tao Te Ching, Verse 17

bee33
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 19 Apr 2008
Age: 62
Gender: Female
Posts: 3,862

14 Jun 2010, 10:06 pm

Some people who have some small sphere of power over others choose to deal with it by being petty tyrants. I think that's what this guy is doing,. If you need him to sign off on services, you might just have to swallow your opinion of him and just think of him as a fool you don't need to engage with other than the bare minimum.Be bigger than him. But if you can, find someone else.

Soledad
Sea Gull

Joined: 8 Jun 2010
Age: 34
Gender: Male
Posts: 236

15 Jun 2010, 1:22 am

In the beginning of the meeting he went on a rant about a guy who he denied services to because he (the guy, not the counselor) didnt like something the counselor said. So you're right he does do it to everyone, and the guy fell for it, now he's trying to make me fall for it. what a jerk

Chronos
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 22 Apr 2010
Age: 46
Gender: Female
Posts: 8,698

15 Jun 2010, 8:10 pm

It sounds to me like he's the one with the problem. Honestly, most people wouldn't say anything if you were picking at your neck unless you were picking it bloody. It sounds to me like that was just a real pet peeve of his and he couldn't help himself but to just blurt out for you to stop and then couldn't swallow his pride and apologize for it. Some people get really grossed out by that stuff. My cousin constantly has her finger in eye eyes...it kind of makes me want to vomit. I can't look at her when she does it.

Anyway, let it go, it's not worth your time. Request another counselor.

CockneyRebel
Veteran
Veteran

Joined: 17 Jul 2004
Age: 51
Gender: Male
Posts: 121,174
Location: In my own little country

16 Jun 2010, 11:05 pm

Request another counselor, as soon as possible.

_________________
The Family Schlager

Soledad
Sea Gull

Joined: 8 Jun 2010
Age: 34
Gender: Male
Posts: 236

16 Jun 2010, 11:23 pm

Well my brother is in the same thing and he has a hole counselors too, and he tells me that it's guaranteed that they change every year. and with this guy I don't even have to meet with him anymore. all I have to do is mail stuff to him, so I don't wanna go through the trouble of changing it. If he's such an a hole I think he will find his way to the door pretty soon

Page 1 of 1 [ 9 posts ]

Jump to:

Difficult People Post Reply New Topic

Difficult People