Treated as gay friend

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Ok this might just be me, but everytime I'm out with a certain friend and his girlfriend periods of time in the night, when I'm alone with friends gf or gfs friend they'll always bring up their relationship troubles with me, Why? I get the impression they think I'm gay, they're nice to be around so it doesn't bother me too much. Anyone else get this?

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I don't think that is necessarily the reason. In fact it could be viewed as an asset because you come across as being someone that people can trust implicitly. That can be a big factor in being socially accepted.

They don't necessarily think you're gay, but they view you as non-dating material because you probably come off as over-sensitive and understanding, which leads to the friend zone and talking with women about their drama and relationship problems and sex and the city and the like. How old are you anyway?

Thats it, I realized this when I was treated as the "gay friend" by girls a few times as well. i was viewed as non-datable and thus they didnt feel insecure around me

Last edited by tangomike on 22 Nov 2010, 2:05 am, edited 1 time in total.

I guess I've sort of experience something like this and wish it to be different until I realized that its the way its supposed to be with me and I like it.

Maybe they appreciate your honesty and caring ways

Maybe you share personal things with them? which makes them want to share with you.

I'm 23, it can be pretty disheartening at times, I mean this little part of me thinks I might have a chance with her & then she starts talking to me as if I'm some sort of relationship guru (the irony lol). Then again I enjoy socialising more when there's nothing riding on it other than friendship, I wouldn't be surprised if that's obvious too.

Well sometimes girls just like to talk.

Yeah, I've filled that role before.

that's a beautiful sentiment.

OP, maybe they appreciate your advice and value you as a friend. i think that is a good thing, and it is possible that someday one of them might date you. if you wait until one of them is single and tell her your feelings, she may go for you because you showed her what a good friend you are.