Peers don't like me, in general

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I mean peers spefically, not people. Just peers. They didn't when I was younger, but they do now. It all started in grade 8 when I was put in a class with a lot of boys. (Boys around the age of 13 or 14 despise me the most). Girls don't hate me for the most part, but they aren't my biggest fans. Boys really hate me, usually. Not men or older teenagers, early teenaged boys. Little boys don't tend to hate me either.

Most people who aren't my age, like me, but my peers don't. I don't get it. Ever have something like this?

I'm not sure if they dislike me so much as think I'm weird.

I think I might know what you're talking about. I get along with my teachers and the older students (16-18 ) just fine, but the little freshmen (14-15), they're always getting on my nerves. And yes, it is intentional. They get enjoyment out of being irritating.

I think the same a lot of the time.

Recently it's dawned on me that the days I think they hate me are the days when I'm tired, depressed and frankly not too fond of myself either.

When I'm in a brighter mood (rarely), people act the same as they always have, but suddenly the 'hello' of the girl beside me doesn't seem like forced politeness, just a friendly casual greeting and I'm able to return it.

No guarantees, but try getting sleep, getting happy and see if they all still dislike you

Will you please not blame my problems on sleep?

It has nothing to do with sleep. Get used to the fact that kids are just mean. Heck it's known even my teacher said that to me. When get older you people around you will be more tolerant to differences and thus you will be more accepted. I've been thru hell in my elementary and it got better with time.

Shun people who hate you. Don't say hello don't shake hands or whatever. Like they are air. Do that and you will get rid of them, trust me. I am sure there are also good people out there who might relate to you. Try to talk to them sometimes when you see them and don't ignore them. Good luck!

I wasn't. I was just giving my own perspective and offering a suggestion. Take it or leave it .I don't really care.

Sorry. I'm just sensitive to it, that's all. I'm one of those people who doesn't need a lot of sleep. I need to eat to be happy, but sleep doesn't effect me in that way.

I have always been this way too. I think it's maybe because people who are the same age as you expect you to be just like them and to behave a certain "age appropriate" way - like I am at uni and I think everyone is expected to be really social and into going out clubbing every weekend and going to parties, etc. and into all the mainstream bands and TV programmes young people like...whereas people that are older don't expect you to be just like them. I have one friend who is 2 years younger than me - and I feel about 10 or 15 years older than her. I tend to just blank most people my sort of age though. I usually find I have little to say to them.

it's ok . You must be the opposite to me then, I love my sleep!

Are there any times where you do feel that you connect to people you don't normally do?

Again, not saying it's the answer to your case, but I find I'm friendlier on trips, or on occasions where I know I'll only have to socialise for a short - just knowing that there's a finite time to having to chit-chat makes it easier and people respond better when you seem relaxed and happy in yourself.

Another thing that might help is swotting up on whatever garbage most people talk about (celebs, football if that's the case..). Think of it as a particuralily boring bit of homework, but it's amazing how easy it is to get along with people when you both can chat about what Jordan's married lately, or you can at least understand what the others are talking about (girl talk literally goes over my head... I want to press the pause button and examine the sentences but they've already moved onto a different topic.. confusing )

Basically, I don't think there's a medical cure, unless you want to go down the route of anti-anxiety drugs (which have their own side effects) or paying a small fortune for behaviour therapy.

You say that your class is mainly boys; what are the girls like? Are you part of their group, or have they closed ranks?

My class isn't mainly boys this year, that was 2 years ago. One of my classes is mostly girls this year. There are some girls in my English class that are nice.