Canoe Trip next week: Not sure what to do.

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Ok so here's the deal. There is this canoe trip that I am going on next week. About 2 weeks before College let out for the summer I informed this backpacking group that I am in this was going to happen. At that time I got 3 people that said they were interested. I told them that I would get them the information they needed.

About a month and a half later I sent all 3 of them the information. I waited this long for two reasons
A.) I don't want to come off as needy/clingy
B.) Well, huh got a wee bit lazy.


Did not hear anything back from them, I thought to myself ok cool, well its not like I sent them anything that required a response.

Last night I sent all three of them an e-mail saying that the organizer of the trip needed an official headcount and I needed to know if they were still in. So far one guy responded saying that he forgot all about it and was probably already scheduled to work. I e-mailed saying this. 'No worries, its too bad though, there is going to be 100 or more people there and should be a good time. Unless someone does something stupid and gets arrested.

A few minutes later I sent him another e-mail saying that it sucks that most things that are fun are illegal, I meant what I said on that one. In my mind that means dangerous fireworks and weed. No I do not smoke weed if you're wondering.

My goal here is to build a large social circle consisting of different groups. Based on this message was there anything I could have done or said better?

That is entirely normal. I do that all the time. I don't respond right away because I don't want to appear over-eager for friends. And then I put it off.

I'm trying to develop skills of light touch, of asking early but not making a big deal out of it.

If you're going to this big event that has a 100 people, and going by yourself, that is socially ambitious. And I'd encourage you to have realistic expectations.

It's a little bit like going to a dance place to meet women. And I'm speaking as a guy. It's better if I go with another male friend. That kind of pegs me as connected, as a safer entity.

I can't say someone can't go by themselves and meet someone, but it is more socially ambitious.

And I kind of think this large canoe event might be similar.

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And since this is a holiday weekend (here in the States!), maybe one or both of the other people may respond on Tuesday?

Oh I'm not going alone. I'm taking an NT girl I date off and on.

I see what you are saying. Having other guys around means you have social proof. A girl is even better I think.