Roommate Dilemma

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I don't have a room. I live in a living room with the sides blocked off. My rent is really cheap, so that is good. 300$. The downside is that I don't feel comfortable around my roommates.

I feel kind of torn between this. The rent is cheap, but the environment just isn't good. One of my roommates is this girl who I can't stand.

The other guys are ok, but when they are all combined they are so annoying I don't interact with them. I just stay in my room because I don't even want to be in the same room as them.

Just deep down I feel like I really need to move. Its just not me in any way to stay.

I really wish that I had more to do and had places to go and friends to meet and that I didn't stay at home all the time. If I was always out and never home, maybe this wouldn't be too bad.

I just wish I could live in a place that didn't make me feel uncomfortable, with people I actually wanted to hang out with.

I really want to move sooooo bad, but I have no money in the bank, living off paycheck to paycheck, and now I have a fat hospital bill to pay off since I don't have insurance.

I really want to improve myself and grow, and i feel like I am doing that, but I cant stand where I live.

I have been looking on Craigslist, and most of my emails don't get a response, and most renters it seems are looking for "females". crap garbage

What can I really do?

I have a feeling this also ties into my life just having no meaning. I am sick of the area I am living in. I don't have a "crew" a "scene", a "style", a "hangout".

I am trying to go back to school in the fall in a new area and get the f**k out of here, but until then, I just don't know what the f**k to do.

I am trying to figure myself out and actually get situated in life and independent. My parents payed for my college when I move to the area 6 years ago, and I f****d that up, but now I am stuck in the area and and fuckkkkkkk

I am really considering a studio apartment even though they are more expensive, just so I don't have to worry about other people. Does anybody recommend this?

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You are paying $300 a month for a room? That isn't even a room? Where do you live? Here you can get a 2br house for $300 to $350 a month!

Frances

I live in a small town in the deep south. I'm aware that in different places, rents are much higher.

Frances

If you avoiding them you will find it hard to get on with them as socially you have cut them off. If you really can't stand them I would say go out as much as possible. Can you advertise that you are looking for a room someone else if this one place isn't working? I think handwritten cards at work or university can be good. Do you know anyone else you could live with such as a family member for a short time? I think all you can do is look for work to get a higher income and keep looking for somewhere else.

Can you negotiate with the hospital for a better payment plan?

Otherwise if you really can't stand it but you at least have a job you could move your stuff into your car. Just move your mail to a P.O. Box. If there is a truck stop nearby then use it for showers and laundry. Pocket that rent money and save up.

I mean really you wouldn't be leaving much behind. A living room cubicle?

As for your roommates are they just to much into partying or goofing off together? Maybe getting rowdy? Or while not necessarily mean just create an atmosphere that feels to chaotic? Just trying to get a sense of whether this can be addressed or if the best thing is to get away.

ABC123:

Its all relative to the $that ppl make though...

You have to look at the Minimum wage here is $7.25 federally ... so a 40 hour work week (8 hours/day by 5 days) nets you $290 and thats not even with taxes out yet, wich is only about 2/3 of the poverty level.

after 20% for taxes (and thats being nice at $58) you're down to $262, so thats $1028/mo ....


avg rent for a 1 bedroom (this is IN THE GHETTO prices now, not in the suburbs)? 600-800
Average car insurance $100
gas ???
food: $150-250
utilities $150-200
phone $40-100


this includes NO fun. NO toilet paper, toothpaste, condoms, prescriptions, parking tix, birthday cake, christmas presents, intermet, video games, music, movies... you get the idea.


http://oregonstate.edu/instruct/anth484/minwage.html

I hate that b****. I tried being nice to her on the beginning. I did one thing (take her clothes out of the dryer when she left it there and I needed to use it), and she got all butthurt. Now she hates me, or thinks I am some pig. She does everything possible to make me feel uncomfortable, like singing, bringing over a gay male friend of hers and talking about vulgar things. I don't think she is doing these things on purpose, rather thats just who she is. I am always in my room and I don't wish to see her, and its awkward because I hate "having to ignore" someone who I live with in close proximity.

Most of all, I just hate her because she hates me. I can tell when someone has contempt for me.

Put plainly, she is a "Fag Hag". She prefers the company of gay men. She is annoying and I can't stand her.