Am I crazy for thinking this situation is odd?

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So my birthday is coming up next month, and usually I have a couple of friends come over for an really informal party/sleepover.

We all have busy schedules, so after finding out a date that might work with everyone, I started contacting people to see if the date would work for them. Two of the friends are at another school, but I'm in far more frequent communication with one of the friends by phone, so I asked him if he could come and he could ask the other friend if he could come.

He can, but the other friend says that he wants to be asked in person, or with a personal message. Isn't this a little odd? I'm not asking him out on a date, I'm the one inviting him to my house.

I asked mom about it and she said it sounds like he is being cautious about your sincerity b/c you asked him over the phone through a third party and he may feel that if you are really interested in him coming that you would give him a personal invitation. He problably had some bad experiences where he was invited to party through a friend and was ignored the whole time. We all had these experiences...Mom thinks he just wanted to know that you really want him there.

Some people are cautious about going to a social event that a friend has been invited to. "Does X know that I'm coming? Is she okay about that?" By receiving an invitation from the host, the guest is left in no doubt that he is both expected and welcome.