Communication: How to get people to leave you alone

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How do you get people to leave you alone and stop going on and on about something?
I dont know how to communicate to people that they need to back off without getting aggressive, so am wanting some better approaches to try. Any suggestions?

sometimes when my dad is going on and on, or just talking too much and saying the same things over and over, I just say "I need to talk now!" and then say what I need to say. Or I just say "I need to go check my email" or feed the cat or fold my laundry and then walk away.

Thanks, Ill give that a go...that seems like a much nicer way of getting the message across

You can lie and tell them you have a headache and ask if you can do or talk about this another time. That works sometimes. Sometimes I pretend that my phone has vibrated and then pretend to read a text, and then tell them "excuse me, I have to take care of this. Sorry!" and I leave.

Say I need to pee. or I am sorry but I need to go to the bathroom.

Someone will probably freak out on here though cause that suggestion entails lying

Ok, so is the basic formula: firmly change subject, redirecting both your attention and the other persons attention, and then physically distance self from the other person if necessary?

No, you lie and then stick to it. I can't do this either. You could just say "I see. Anyways..." to change topics when they are done talking. This would work about half the time, but at least it would be obvious. I usually just bluntly state "this is boring me" and change subject...it doesn't help much.

When you get to my age (55) you can pretty much pee on demand, so saying "I need to pee" wouldn't be dishonest.

Start to ignore them.

Fart in their face.

I use a thing I saw in Green Wing (British sitcom a few years ago) where you say "Can I just stop you there?" as if you're going to interject with a point, but instead you walk away.

Oh how I would love to do this, but I cannot handle people being angry with me. If I do something like this, as good as it would feel to me, and as much as I would love to see the reaction (however this can not be seen while also walking away), trying to deal with an emotional person I find next to impossible. This would be especially detrimental to my own situation if used on the people I live with, however I like the thought, it would just make the following time until the other person moved on hard to handle. I need a response that is as positive as possible.

If it's somebody going on about something then just say "I'm sorry, but I really gotta run (make a phone call/get this finished/go to the bathroom whatever) I'll get back with you as soon as I can. Promise! Later!" and turn around and walk off or hang up. If you are on the phone you can say anything and they won't know if it's true. "Doorbell, I gotta go" or "Holy s**t my feet just spontaneously combusted, I'll call you back" or whatever.

If it's somebody who is annoying that you want to avoid, sometimes this works. When you are leaving if they say "See you later" you say "Not if I see you first."

I giggled

Telling a lie, especially to get out of an uncomfortable situation, is not the end of the world or something that is so very wrong.

I actually had no idea what that meant until I read it on here.