Losing Friends is a Frightening Prospect

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Losing friends is a frightening prospect, especially when you have trouble making them. I am concerned that small social circle is going to disappear very shortly. I have two main friends. One who is a boy and one who is a girl (I am also a girl). The boy and I tried dating for a while but he was too possessive and intense so I asked that we just be friends. He then wanted the e-mail of the girl. With her permission, I provided it to him. It made me quite sad, because I had romantic feelings for her.

Anyway, they started dating. He seemed to go out of his way to rub their relationship in my face and that they were having sex and stuff. I don't mind that they are dating, but I don't like him saying those things and I told him so. He just keeps doing it. I think it is very disrespectful to her.

I should also note that both she and he are aware of my feelings for her. She likes too cuddle when I stay the night. She says she means it in friendly way but my other friends and I don't cuddle. I think it is a little odd, but I do not mind. I think it is kind of nice.

As a result of all of this confusion, I had a meltdown yessterday. I told him to stop texting me and calling me because I needed space and when he didn't listen I told him to "f--- off". Things with the girl have also been confusing. She has been distant and something is different but I can't quite figure it out. I don't want to be the boy's friend anymore. I think he was telling me things to upset me, which is cruel. And I don't know what to make of my other friend. Why are people so strange?

In my opinion, when someone gets into a relationship it can depolarize their existing ones. If they want to move on without you, there's not a lot you can do about it except accept it gracefully. However this may not be their intent, and maybe it's just emotional friction stuff that you may be contributing to in some unknown way.


I've had stuff this happen to me before, I think sometimes people just grow in different directions and lose their commonness. It's a "that's life" thing. Stinks though.

IMHO fair weather friends aren't worth all that mental strain.

Your male friend is quite obviously not your friend. Friends don't act the way he is acting towards you. Stop feeding the pleasure --yes the pleasure--he is getting by tormenting you. End contact with him. That includes STOP RESPONDING TO HIS ATTEMPTS TO CONTACT YOU. I mean, DUH! How hard is that to figure out? All you have to do is go into your email account and your phone settings to block his email address, and his phone number.

Remember the old saying: "It hurts when I do that." "So, don't do that!"