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when i was reading tarot i had a client who was lonely with no parent, husband left her, no children.
she used to call me often for advice and free tarot readings
once a year she used to pay me a small amount she keeps saying that she is poor and cant pay etc.

since i was lonely too i continued listening to her and helping her.
but somewhere down the line i feel she as some mental issues.
she says something and after somedays when i ask her again she says something different.

she is too much into spiritual stuff and keeps suggesting me to watch so and so spiritual programme
but i told her that many spiritual guru's are quacks and they are good in communication so they are able to hold
the attention of audiences.

but she is adamant that her spiritual guru is genuine and she wants me to pursue her guru
i never told her about my background about my childhood abuse but last time i did tell her about my mom's
narcissism just to break her illusion that i am some perfect counsellor for her.
she keeps lots of pets but when her pets become sick or die she keeps calling me and saying that she wants to find
out from tarot why her dog bite her, why her rabbit died or why one of her other dog died.

Someone told her that she will die in 2012 so she keeps asking me whether she will die in 2012 and why i said
probably then last time she called me up saying that i had said that she will die in 2012 and now her pets are dying
because its her time to die soon....i was quite taken back because i never told her that she would die i just had said probably.

She just calls me up on phone but when i ask her to meet outside in garden etc then she makes excuses.......i think she just wants
to use me as a counsellor but i have always suggested her numbers of astrologer, therapist, etc etc for her to approach them
but she doesnt want to spend money she prefers blurting her problems to me.

is she a genuine friend, what could be her intentions with me, does she just want free tarot readings???
i am confused about her.

This lady is definitely not your friend. She is using you to dump on and for free "therapy" sessions. Next time she calls, tell her that you are not a therapist, so you can't provide her with therapy. And also tell her what your rates are if she wants a tarot reading. No more freebies for this manipulative free loader. If she tries to dump her problems on you for more free therapy anyway, just say "Sorry, I have to hang up now as I need to keep the line free for my paying customers." And then HANG UP THE PHONE!! ! After that don't take her calls any more.

Isn't that neat? You get to choose whether or not someone takes advantage of you.

She seemslike she is completely isolated. Most people will turn to spirituality only in times of crisis. I can't say I believe in tarot cards since they operate on the same function as a Rorscach test in my opinion, but maybe you could also redirect her to a therapist or a place to meet people.

Then yes, remove her from your life like questor said.

I think it is a negative relationship for both of you. Clearly it is taking a toll on you emotionally (and possibly physically). She should seek out community counselling or some sort of mental health assistance.

Additionally, if she does have mental health issues--and it seems that that is the case--tarot cards and spiritual gurus etc, will do less than nothing to help her. I understand for some people it is an enjoyable passtime and I can respect that, but for someone with serious emotional problems it provides false hope and no solutions.

Ultimately, she is not your responsibility. She is asking for more from the relationship than she is giving. It is a sad situation, but you shouldn't feel guilty. She needs professional help.