Ok, so I have friends, but we don't really get together...

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I have a few friends offline, but really I don't see them. I have a few in Psych Rehab and a couple not. I don't really know we are friends until we chat a lot either online or off and on over txts. I have a phone, but I barely use it for anything other than texting or internet, checking my fs, calling customer service or other various places for whatever reason. I don't call my friends on the phone. I don't get that far. I can't even make friends enough with some people that I already know that I could potentially text or whatever. I'm really no good at making friends or taking friends to another level, like seeing a movie or being over to play a game or whatever. What friends I do have I can't even understand how I got as far as I did. I think they usually initiate it. They start things off. I dunno. Sometimes I'm incredibly bored and need something more. I need a lot of time to myself, but I could use more human interaction. I just don't know how it goes. "Heh, yeah, welcome to aspergers..."

I don't have many friends either and the friendships don't last. I don't often get together with them either.

I have the same problem I know alot of people but none of them I would consider good friends. My one close friend moved away to Chicago, so I have really no one to do anything with. I still spend alot of time home alone. I only see these people when I go out for local musical events.

Me too, I had friends in high school but they have gone their separate ways and none of them really talk to me anymore anyway. I just want that good friend in my life but it seems like a chore...

Having a good friend can be a chore! It can also be nice at the same time! Just remember, you have all kinds of people. People who only want to be friends with you when they are in the same area as you, and then many of us who tend to gravitate more toward wanting to have a close niche of friends no matter if we move or not. Many of us usually take it to "the next level", not necessarily a bad thing. But in any friendship or relationship, it must go both ways. If it's not, it may be better to keep to your own space. Relationships, friendships or not, are all about compromise and working together too. So, yes, it is a lot of work! But if you find a good connection in which both of you can tolerate or like each other, it may be worth it in the end.

MacGyver, in your case, I would try to pursue new friends, not too hard, but just keep yourself as busy as possible. Try to meet people based on your interests off of meetings at meetup.com for instance. Many of them will just be showing up to the activity and just "being there" and you have to "feel it out" which is hard for us. But if we don't try, then we have only gained nothing. And of course, don't expect to connect wiht people on a first visit either, but don't feel like you have to stick around if the situation feels a bit too off too.

If you don't get invited to events by them, don't hang out with them much, and you are the one that always initiates online contact, they are probably acquaintances and not friends. Not to say they don't enjoy your company though.

even i dont get invitations for attending any functions...neither i have company to check out new movies, or drink coffee.
I am alone most of the time...
I did attend many meetup groups etc but couldnt make any friends...they were merely acquaintances who found me quite
boring
Even at workplace they prefer company of others rather then mine.
All the way i feel im destined to die alone in a isolated place without any company or anyone to talk or share myself with.

I guess we need to accept that we are on the spectrum and having close friends would be difficult for us.
We also need to accept that others will find us different, dull, boring etc.....rather then trying hard to fit
in it will be better to wait for those who are interested in being our friends.