Don't want to meet new people?

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There's a lot of tips out there, I notice, for how to make friends and socialize with NTs if you have AS. I have a few people in my life who I have become comfortable with, but I have no interest whatsoever in meeting new people, only perhaps if it would be definitely be to my advantage to meet a specific person who could help me in some way or teach me something useful according to my interests, but for the sake of making friends or socialzing, I have no interest at all.
I get a bit worried sometimes that one day, when I'm too old and set in my ways to do anything about it, that a normal desire to meet people will 'kick in'. And I'll start to be lonely and desperate. I really hope not. When someone I know introduces me to someone new, and gives me random facts about them, I don't want to sound horrible, but I really don't care, my brain just switches off and refuses to pay attention or retain any of this information. I have people I've been friends with for a couple of years now and honestly can not tell you what their jobs are or where they work, just really vague descriptions or speculations. It's terrible, I make a terrible friend! but I am loyal and caring..in my own way, I think.
Does anyone else here know what I mean? or have no desire to meet people or find out about them?

I can half relate. I do have a desire to make friends, but not to "find out about them", at least not in the sense that I think you are talking about. I also tend to zone out when people give me the basic facts about themselves, i.e. what they do for work, where they live, etc. It's not interesting unless there's something significant to my mind about it. I do however, want to meet people who think in an interesting way, who I can have interesting conversations/debates with about philosophical or similar kinds of topics. I have the desire to develop friendships for the purpose of sharing our more complex thoughts and feelings. I do not desire friendships just so we can agree on everything and communicate only on a shallow, superficial level.

Also I notice you put "make friends and socialise" together a couple of times there. I'd say I like to make friends, but not socialise, if that makes sense. At least, not socialise in the typical sense.