Anyone else worry about how your social skills are?

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I know I shouldn't, but I find myself worrying about my social skills a lot recently. Like the other day me and my mum saw my brother's friend in the bus stop, and she's only a year older than me, but my mum was doing all the talking more than I was, where as I should of been talking to her more because she was young like me. I felt my mum assumed I wouldn't chat so she kind of took over the conversation and I got excluded a bit. Now my brother's friend might think I'm not very friendly. I did do a bit of talking but not as much as I could have. But I am more of a listener than a talker, that doesn't make me any less friendlier than others, so long as I smile, make eye contact and speak a few words, which was what I did, and I just hope nobody really noticed.

Also I think I've said some stupid things to the bus-driver I have a crush on. Like he was saying about one of his colleagues leaving who I liked as a friend, and I said, ''oh, she's my second favourite bus-driver''. And I have a feeling that was a bit of a stupid thing to say. Soon these people are going to start thinking I'm a right nutter.

Do you ever worry about your social skills?

They probably do literally think you're a nutter, but I think 1/4 people would get seen as nutters by society, even when they come over as perfectly normal to us aspies.

There are some people in this society who use the "nutter" label quite frequently to people they don't know and know nothing about, I think you should worry about THOSE people.

Yeah, worrying doesn't really help, I used to do it a lot more last year and year before but it's kind of normal for someone with AS at that age.

And NT's do it a lot in middle school.

Currently, I just try to keep mental clarity rather than worrying about normalcy.

No need to worry, I know my social skills suck. In the situation you describe I wouldn't have said anything.

I think we all do to some degree because of the human need to want to fit in.