No one likes me

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I'd thought I'd vent instead of screaming. No one has ever liked me . Any time I talk to someone they get angry at me, yell at me, give me dirty looks, etc. So much rage.

well, you're among others with similar experiences...

it gets better

No one likes me either, but do I care? Nope. You just don't think about it. If people give you mean looks, give them a mean look back. If people tease you, tell someone so it can be delt with. Most people don't like me, but I don't let it get to me, because if I did, believe me, I'd be emo!

Unfortunately, I yelled at my cat, which led to my mom yelling at me, which led me to yell at my mom that I didn't care if she died. Pretty much what goes on in my life and inside my head most of all. going on since puberty.

Didn't care if your mom or your cat died?

When?

Being arbitrarily hated is good for character growth. You'll probably find that over time, you'll be able to put up with much more.

The humans tend to like humans like themselves. I have tried to be liked and failed miserably. I am just too weird for them. F-em. I am going into stealth-mode and keeping my mouth shut as much as I can around the humans. They are not interested in me as a person anyway.

Yuki Nagato is going to be my guide for this. She is completely weird, but liked because she says very little. I will let you know how this experiment pans out.

I'm sorry to hear that!

I hope things improve with you soon!

eventually, and maybe.

Yes, those are vague, there's no certainty in life.

Alex is right that you're not the only one. I don't think he's right that it gets better, it's heading even further south for me at the moment. Be a pessimist, at least then you'll be prepared for when everything goes wrong.

Yikes, I'm going to turn this around and say "be an optimist."

The last thing we need is more depression on this planet. One can respond to positive thinking, quite well. I'm having a very tough time associating with someone at work because he is EXTREMELY pessimistic and is a big downer, to me. Ironically, he has no friends.

If you think "negatively" then everything you DO is going to turn out "negatively." You start looking for the negative in everything so you'll "be prepared when it goes wrong." Before soon, everything in your life will be "pessimistic" and now we are more on the "depressed" side of the mind then the "optimistic" side.

Sorry, Goat, not to pick your suggestion apart and there is some humour I understand in the 'preparing' part of your quote, but I strongly feel many here need a NEW way to view life as the way they have is too "negative" already and is only "feeding" the negativity in themselves (its a viscious cycle). I've been on both sides of the fence. I used to be a "pessismistic realist" and surprise, life sucked. I turned my view around, on some things (and many more to come) and my life is dramatically different. Hell, I dropped 5 strokes in golf because my anger is down 10 fold

Well said. I have always been hated by 99.99% of the people in my life. People are always amazed that I never give up on something when faced with adversity. Looking back all of the hatred I experienced was really preperation for all of the good things that have come into my life over the last few years. You can't experience joy until you have experienced sorrow.

everybody thinks I am A loser I cannot socialize at all!! !

The only thing I am good at is

being independent (living by myself) computers,musical knowledge, and a few other things but

hey! since nobody cares it isn't worth it.

I should of slashed my wrists years ago

Do what works for you. Although I never associated pessimism with depression, I'm not depressed. The great thing about pessimism is that you're happy when you're wrong, and when you're right, well, at least you're right. Therefore making it a win win situation. Although you do have a point about your coworker. Pessimism is not something that works well if you are too openly pessimistic to other people, it works better as a mindset. No one likes a pessimist. One reason why other people don't make sense to aspies, it's better not to say what you really think.

Maybe this works for me because by some strange phenomena I am almost always wrong. Being wrong when you're an optimist is much more painful than being wrong when you're a pessimist. Maybe I just jinxed it there though...

Don't kill yourself bjmax. That's never the answer. Decide that if other people are making your life hell that you will return the favor.

No, you dont get upset when you're "optimistic" and "wrong." They are not connected to one another. If you are wrong, you're going to have to "deal" with it, whether you were positive or negative towards it.

Cognitive Therapy is base around this. Hey, you mentioned how you're "always wrong" so you just assume you always will be and apparently you always are? You think therefore you are.