Don't Depend On Any Particular Person

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In my earlier days, I would latch on to someone who showed interest and seemed compatible to me. I didn't take the time to get to know the person first.

Of course that scared people off. I quit all that. Than found a lot of get togethers with subsequent friends only happened if I initiated. Once I got tired of that and quit contact altogether.

Oh right this is about not hanging everything on one person. Not healthy.

It's a terrible feeling to be dependent upon anybody.

I never showed my "dependence" upon anybody in my life.

But, in my mind, I used to obsess over people. These obsessions could have caused me to do foolish things.

I’ve done some ridiculous things when I was obsessed with someone.

I haven’t since my early 20’s, though.

I was in situations Kraftie where it seemed warranted however misguided for professional reasons.

My circumstances have changed and I'm not in direct contact with these people....including Movie Guy.

I don't bother getting close with anyone these days. There are too many people out there that use people like me and too many narcissists running around.

Unfortunately, as you grow progressively older, you have progressively fewer people to depend on. Then one day, you realize that the older person you have left to depend on is yourself. This could either be liberating or devastating.

I never had anyone to depend on.

Lucky.

Nearly everyone that I used to depend on has either died or betrayed me.

I'm in the same boat as HistoryGal.

It really sours you to people after awhile being as they only come around when they want something.

The person who first said, "'Tis better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all" obviously never "loved and lost" anybody.

You who have never had anyone to depend on probably don't know the heartbreak of loss or betrayal.

(I'm guessing, not accusing.)

Fnord, yup I had people I thought I could depend on.....yes the betrayal was intense.

P.S. You are cleverly insightful.

Elaine, same leaky boat.....

Amen to that.

People used to put me down as someone who was "Least likely to succeed". That is, until they found out how successful I'd become all on my own. When they come around looking for a handout, I ask them, "Where were you when I was homeless?"

That usually stops them in their tracks.

Yup. I don't even bother with most people.

I don't dislike people---but I really, really try not to rely on them.