When and where is it the best time to cry?

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Hi,
I typically don't cry as I used to when I was younger. I would cry anyplace too. Now though, I don't do it as much. When I do, it is usually when everything seems to cave in on "One of those days." So I sometimes tend to be more sensitive to absolutely everything. This is especially when someone is only talking to me like they normally do and I seem to take it as "Why are you yelling at me?" This is even though everything is in in my head. So, I often feel like I am about to spill over and cry but I don't want to do it in certain places.

Yet, when is it okay to cry and where is it okay to do so?

The only suitable place for me to cry is where I am alone

Maybe a good rule of thumb is that you should only cry in the presence of people who you have seen cry?

I've cried for the same reasons as you as well.

When I used to be a teenager, I cried in the presence of friends and schoolmates, however I got perceived as being weak.

Nowdays, when I cry it is only in front of my family

Privately (unless you know someone you are very close with that will understand i.e. family member or significant other). Go to your room, play some music or movie a bit loud to mask sounds (or maybe you can watch drama/romance films and pretend like your crying because of the movie).

Be strong friend! I find the occasional tears to be an emotional catharsis. I may feel sad for a moment but it's very therapeutic and reminds me I'm human which makes it better.

You should read "A Tear for A Smile" by Kahlil Gibran if you're into poetry. It's reassuring! Also, if you're bold enough, try talking to someone close that you can trust.

Also, what you describe doesn't seem to fit symptoms of AS I think. I wouldn't go as far as to say it's self-esteem issues or mood swings, but you could def share with us if you are comfortable with it.

It all varies A LOT. Oliver Sacks said "If you've seen one person with autism, you've seen one person with autism."

Feeling bad might come and go like it does with everybody. It can be enough of a problem to lead to depression. It can be enough of a problem to lead to AvPD.