Colleague acting like friend

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Ok. So none of my colleagues are remotely interested in socialising with me

And 2 months back there was this blast by our new manager who blasted my colleague
left and right for inappropriate behaviour at work.

Since then she became friendly with me overnight
Because im her senior and i hold the rein of her job in my hands

she calls me up and complaints about the manager, supervisor and all those
people who are trying to set her right.

during appraisal i was asked whether they should continue keeping her
i got confused since she is suddenly on friendly terms with me
and calls me up daily and poisoning my mind about the manager etc
whereas i feel she is the culprit.

during appraisal i said that let give her one chance
but i am tired of her fake behaviour
and fake friendship

what should i do??

you did the right thing. How did she treat you before her job came to be jeopardized?

Test her limits, 'accidentally' screw up and inconvenience her and see if she flies off the handle?

she was asocial with me before her job came under scanner
there were slightest hint of interest in her to socialise with me

whenever we had a meeting in office she wouldnt talk with me,
sit with me

now overnight there is a change

she has started calling me on phone,
asking my whereabouts
trying to be nice with me

During my final appraisal with Ma'am i was asked
whether they should continue with her or sack her

I got confused because she was nice with me in recent months
but in my heart i know she is a crook

Try not to say/write crook etc to her at work. You are probably already doing that. You can always be courteous about it. It sure does sound like she is sucking up to you. Rather focus on her work effort and comment on where she could do improvement. Appropriately of course, I'm not the person to do that though. I've been looking into aggressive versus assertive. The difference is, aggressive is win:lose where as assertiveness is win:win situation. Have you gone on emotional training yet from work? Is it a requirement there?