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leafplant
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16 Dec 2013, 7:45 pm

I miss my friends - the ones I haven't spoken to or heard from since I stopped going on FB.
One friend in particular, I keep wondering how she is doing. I could email her, or try skyping but..

you know..

that would involve emailing
and skyping


There are so many social things going on this time of year. I feel so much pressure to catch up with everyone that the only thing that can and will happen is that I will shut down and not catch up with anyone.

Sigh

Does anyone have these problems? Could this be autism related or is this just me being awkward. Since I will never be diagnosed, I'm not sure it matters but it sort of does, to me.



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16 Dec 2013, 8:24 pm

Sounds to me like you might have a touch of Seasonal Affective Disorder going on.

The lack of sunlight in the winter can really deplete your vitamin D levels, especially if you're a housebound recluse by nature and don't get outside much. Natural light lamps supposedly help, too. I have one, but most days I forget to turn it on and when I do, I hate the quality of the light, it's too much like a bright fluorescent and just washes the colors right out of everything.

I don't so much feel any pressure to catch up with anyone, but I do feel extremely isolated this year, like the world has just moved on without me and forgotten (nor cares) that I exist. I don't know if I have any actual friends anymore. There are people I used to be friends with a long time ago who don't necessarily have anything against me, they just don't care. I haven't been on their radar for a long time. I can't help feeling if they wanted to talk to me, they'd contact me, so I don't bother them. :hmph:



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17 Dec 2013, 6:26 pm

yeah, I definitely suffer from ASD although this year it hasn't been as bad for some reason. Guess not being as cold has a lot to do with it.

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There are people I used to be friends with a long time ago who don't necessarily have anything against me, they just don't care. I haven't been on their radar for a long time. I can't help feeling if they wanted to talk to me, they'd contact me, so I don't bother them.


the secret of popular people is that they reach out a lot. why don't you get in touch with them, rather than waiting for them to remember you? they probably think you don't want their company.