FB Overcommenting

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How do you know when you're overcommenting on one's FB page unless they tell you? Or give you a daily quota or something?

If you comment on everything, that's too much. If you comment everyday, but on different things, that's too much. Most people only comment every-so-often when something takes their interest. If you comment alot it looks obsessive.

What if you're accused of overcommenting, but other friends of that person who comment far more frequently are not accused?

In other words, you're singled out?

Then that person is very selective about who they like getting attention from.

I wasn't even told I was overcommenting until *after* I was unfriended by that person, so no opportunity to correct myself. And I would never do anything to intentionally make anybody uncomfortable. That friend is gone forever.

Nearly all of this person's friends were people she'd known for years, or family members. I was one of the few newbies. I think there was favoritism going on.

Last edited by Tim_Tex on 15 Dec 2013, 11:05 am, edited 1 time in total.

You'll never find out the answer to the question you are asking. The person made the decision and is hoping you take whatver hint they gave you. Rude and inconsiderate not to give you warning or tell you why ahead of time? Yes, it sometimes is. Will that person agree that it's rude and inconsiderate? Probably not. They will likely justify the reasons for the behaviour they engage in long before they ever take responsibility for it.

edit: Ok, now that you have added teh second paragraph... there likely was no favouritism going on. Those were people she loves

I really wanted to be her friend, but she didn't act like a friend. I was probably added so her number of friends would go up, and no other reason. And she said that her boyfriend (a married man she is fooling around with) was the one uncomfortable, not her.

Wow... ok.

She did you a favour... a married man that she is fooling around with is telling her what to do. Sounds like there would be too much confusion and headaches moving forward. I've been involved with a girl that had a boyfriend before as well. Not worth the time.

I lost one of the few people I could talk to about my interests., because she allowed herself to be controlled by someone else.

Moral of the story: Never make mistakes. Ever.

Dont you think you're being a little too hard on yourself now? If you feel you have made a mistake, learn from it and grow.

I dont see how you made any huge mistake. She admitted that she was fooling around with a man that was married. Why get involved any further? She is addressing to you that she has her own issues and mistakes to learn from.

Read through your posts and you will address the mistake you feel you made. I am not sure if I can address your mistakes as I am unclear as to what it is you did that was considered a mistake.

The only way I can be with people with the same interests is to force people to have those interests.

Favoritism for long friends and family? Really?

I have only one use for Facebook.

While I websurf, my iPod sits on a table behind me, playing through a wave radio – thirty years as a disc jockey left me a pauper, but the one perk was, I got to bring home all sorts of free music, so there’s like 25,000 songs playing randomly on my iPod, dating from 1900 through 2012.

So once a day – and only once a day – at any point when some weird line from a random song happens to kinda jump out at me – the stranger the better – I log on to Facebook, post that one meaningless line, and log off.

Now what’s really amusing about this, is that when I log on again the next day to post the next little bit o’gibberish – I’ll have about a half dozen LIKES from the previous day. I got seven thumbs up the other day for:

Goo-goo.
Goo-goo. Barabajagal.

The oddest part of this is that a lot of the people who are “liking” this stuff - aunts, uncles, mentally challenged cousins - I know for a fact have no earthly idea what these phrases are. They just see my little avatar there and go: “Hey, I know that guy” – CLICK!

Sometimes people will recognize the song that the line is from, and they’ll chime in with their individual comments and supply the next line of the song, so I come back the next day and the whole next verse and a chorus are there, like some online group Karaoke sing-along.

It’s not a guessing-game, people, there are no prizes being given out here for the right answer. We’re not playing ‘Name That Tune.’ I’m not making a statement, or indicating my state of mind, or even saying I like the song. If it’s any kind of comment, it’s an indictment of the inanity of Social Media.

I guess what I’m saying is: “Look, morons – something shiny!”

And they go “Hey, I know that guy” – CLICK!

What I meant was that I thought all her friends, myself included, would be treated equally as far as commenting went. I was commenting on articles, memes, and posts I found interesting. It wasn't like "OK, the post came from her, so I feel obligated to post", or anything like that.

That's pretty controlling. I can only be with people if I force them to like what I like.

Over commenting can be annoying to the person receiving them, depending on the comments. Couple things you can do.

Don't comment on everything.

Trade some comments for likes.

Sometimes if a female friend posts a nice picture of her, instead of commenting, I'll just like it.

As for everything about equality and stuff, that's not how the friendships work. Everyone has different levels of friendship, I have friends who I can be very open with, and friends that things are kept polite.

I did trade comments for likes, and only commented on things I genuininely found interesting. But to her, that was still overcommenting. She was blowing everything so far out of proportion.