Do they think I'm stupid?

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Something happened in P.E. again today that I usually disregard, but not today.

We were doing ultimate frisbee, and it was thrown to me. I'm not really much of an athlete; my reflexes arent great and I get too easily distracted.

When I got the frisbee, a student from the other team stood in front of me and suggested, very cordially, that I pass it to him. I've noticed other classmates do this in various sports activites, but only to me.

There is no way I could mistake him for my own teammate, we wear different colored jerseys, both different neon color. So this begs the question, are they assuming that they can trick me into handing the frisbee (or ball, or puck, etc) to them because I'm stupid?

He was probably saying it because, as you mentioned, you aren't much of an athlete and he doesn't think you'll be able to do much for your team with it.

trash talking is part of sports. he was trying to win at all costs - including trickery. it doesn't say anything about you.

My classmates don't do that to anyone else, they think I can be tricked. And they usually yell at each other, but when they try to trick me (how dumb can I be? WHY would i just hand it over to someone on the opposite team?) They talk soft, and slow

maybe then not stupid, but gullible. I was known as intellectually brilliant, but was gullible until about the age of 30.

keep proving them wrong. they'll get tired of trying.

Just deflect it. Laugh and say "did you really think I was that stupid?". Then keep playing the game right away. Don't make it a thing and it isn't a thing. Pretty sure they wouldn't do it again, if you react like this. Any time you feel your intelligence is being insulted, just deflect it. It's not worth it to countenance this kind of crap when you think people are patronizing you or insulting you because of autism. You may not always guess right whether or not they really are patronizing you or insulting your intelligence, but you still shouldn't have to put up with anything like that.

It can be good to "cover it with a blanket" sometimes and just assume this if it's not there. Whether or not they really mean it like that when you respond similarly to what I suggested, they'll at least get the picture that you don't put up with garbage like that just because you're on the spectrum.

This is exactly what happened to me all through school.

This is probably good advice and is what I did but it may take quite some time before it is effective. That has been my experience anyway.

Basically, yes. If you pressed for an explanation, they'd say you seem 'awkward' and 'unaware', but you don't try that unless you think it'll work, and you never try it on someone you like, or at least respect. The thing to do next time someone does that is gently toss him the frisbee, then tackle him as hard as you can. "Sorry, I get confused about the rules sometimes, was that OK?"

Hermmm... I can see that not being taken well at all.