Why must I lose Facebook friends....

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...even though I did nothing wrong or anything at all to them? It just baffles me. This one kinda friend ignored me on that site. Her loss, even though I'm kinda reeling from it. I think that those people who are going to dump me like that aren't worth dealing with. Has this ever happened to you? Post it here.

Meh, it just happens. It also happened to me back in the MySpace days. Not long after I joined Facebook, I had a wave of old schoolmates throw requests my way (some whom I never even used to talk to back in the day), and little by little a lot of them dropped off simply because we now lead very different lifestyles with very different interests. That's usually the primary reason someone would unfriend you: they simply don't have anything in common with you anymore.

The important thing is that your real friends are still connected with you. It doesn't matter if someone you haven't seen in a decade unfriends you, as long as you're still sticking with the ones who matter, that's all that's required.

I've on occasion gone through and deleted people on my friends list I never talk to/interact with, just to sort of clean up the clutter....though its been a while since I have done that most people on my friends list are people I know IRL or people I have known online for years and then some random people I don't know that I added for neighbors on a game called pot farm.

Did you attempt interacting with this person on facebook and they just flat out haven't responded to all attempts or did they actually like block/put you on an ignore list?...do you know if they where active on facebook, maybe they had one and just didn't get on it very much and that's why.

^ Well, I tried adding her again, but then she blocked me for no good reason.

Everyone loses Facebook friends, Mr Drama.

What bothers you more, that you lost a friend, or because it was a girl you may or may not of liked in some way?

If it's the former, people unfriend people all the time on facebook for a variety of reasons, and it's usually not because they just don't like you. I personally unfriend people I have absolutely no connection to anymore or people who post too much political & social justice crap that I don't want to read.

If it's the latter.. I'm sorry, it happens, but you have to learn to move on from it. It doesn't really define your worth as a person if someone isn't your facebook friend. Other people will want to be anyway.

You're on my Facebook and a nice guy and I have no problem with you as I'm an aspie too and understand how things can be at times but I can give you a suggestion that might help. I don't know if you do this with him or not but I've noticed that when you and I talk in chat on FB (rarely, I know - I'm not on that much anymore and I do miss talking to you) that when you are talking about you or something you are interested in, you talk and carry on a conversation but when the topic shifts to the other person or something you may not be interested in but the other person is, you just clam up and say "Oh" or something like that. I know you have told me you do that, and I've noticed that you do it and it doesn't bother me but it might give some people the impression that you have no interest at all in them. I think it might be simply because you don't know what to say about what they said or something like that and you are being polite and trying to carry on the conversation because you do like them and care about their friendship, but somebody else who may not understand where you are coming from might see it as just self absorbed.

I'm not trying to insult you at all, so please don't take it that way. Like I said, I've never had a problem with you and certainly would have told you if I did, but thats the only thing you have done that I could see somebody misinterpreting or getting pissed off about. I've never seen you post insulting things or really even anything thats borderline rude or offensive, so it's not that. I think the person should have told you what it was you did that upset them though, before they blocked you. Lots of times in a text medium misunderstandings happen a lot.

I've blocked people from FB before, for various reasons. I'll go down the list of a few folks and things they did so you can see if maybe you did something like this to this particular guy, if it helps.

I once had a friend on FB who I enjoyed talking to but who seemed to try and monopolize every single second of my online time. This person would not only send me long PM's on another site which would take me a long time to answer because they had tons of questions in them, but as soon as I'd sign onto FB within five minutes I'd get a chat message from her. If I'd say I was busy she would ask what I was doing and then ask me why I couldn't do that and chat at the same time, because she could do that. I *could* do that, but I didn't always *want* to do that. I tried explaining it, but that didn't work. She also nitpicked every detail of anything I said or did.

Another person on there posted huge, dramatic events and long rants about them and unless you posted something back in her thread she would PM you and accuse you of not reading her or not supporting her view.

Yet another gal would read through her newsfeed and leave a challenging comment on any post that she thought promoted wrong religious or political views. She would then post more stuff supporting her views on the persons page.

Then there are the in general drama queens who have a problem with anything and everything, no matter how small it is in their life and post long rants over it and all their friends are supposed to be uber supportive of them even though they can't seem to distinguish between the appropriate amount to be upset when your grandmother dies and when McDonalds stops serving a particular sandwich or the stop light in town is not working properly.

There are tons of people like that on FB and I haven't seen you do any of those things, so the only reason I could think of is maybe the guy misinterpreted how you respond in chat conversations and took your responses as disinterest rather than you just letting him know you were listening although you didn't know what to say at the time.

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I'm giving it another shot. We will see.
My forum is still there and everyone is welcome to come join as well. There is a private women only subforum there if anyone is interested. Also, there is no CAPTCHA.

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Don't take it too seriously. If they blocked you because they were mad at you rather than discussing it with you like a civilized human being, they probably weren't a true friend anyway.

I don't participate in Social Networking sites anymore. I saw it as a race and a competition to get the most 'friends' and the most 'likes'....all it has become, is some kind of 'social petition' where people come and go (usually due to boredom when you haven't posted anything interesting on your 'Wall' for a week or so)...it's sad how some young people use Facebook as some kind of 'social barometer' - judging their popularity and acceptance in society according to the number of 'friends' they have...they go for quantity over quality in a popularity contest that really gives no indication of their popularity whatsoever - the whole thing is a farce.

It's better to have a few close friends IRL than a thousand digital acquaintances on Facebook.

Like the previous poster stated, it was never meant to be taken seriously and it's such a damn shame that it has...to the point where 14yr old girls are posting semi-pornographic 'selfies' while others are getting depressed (some to the point of suicide) when they lose a few Facebook 'friends'.

See it for what it is, then go and give your real/true friends a hug.

The world would be a much better place without these stupid sites, corrupting relationships (if any were even serious to begin with).

I gotta say I like Facebook simply for the fact that if you join groups you can find people who actually want to hear about your special interests and who enjoy them with you, especially if they're unusual as mine are. People do take it way too seriously, though.

And the losing of the friends continues for me..... their loss......

Maybe it has to do with how self absorbed you are. Do you ask these people how they are doing and discuss their problems with them? Do you act like you care about what may be bothering them or what is making them happy or do you just say "Oh" then start talking about how you are planning some wedding or party for something that may or may not happen 5 or 10 years from now?

People won't continue to be your friend, online or offline, if you only treat them like somebody who should listen to you and talk about you and aren't important to you at all.

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I'm giving it another shot. We will see.
My forum is still there and everyone is welcome to come join as well. There is a private women only subforum there if anyone is interested. Also, there is no CAPTCHA.

The link to the forum is http://www.rightplanet.proboards.com

And it happened to me again........ a friend that I knew on this site (won't say who) defriended me. I'm NOT self-centered, I'm just a dreamer, is all, really.

^ Good song. I will say that I am just a hopeful person, not self-centered, really.