Informal social situations and feeling unsafe

Post Reply New Topic

Social situations are so unpredictable. I have no problem with situations were I have a set purpose. Anything can happen in an informal social situation though and I just don't know what to do.

If I organise meeting people it will go well so long as the other people don't mess things up. Also I'm always worried when meeting new people that they want to harm me; even if they seem cool I'll get worried if they ask a lot of questions or something. I always feel I must have a back up plan in case the person I'm with turns on me and try to attack me or steal or something. I don't want to be that way but it's hard for me not to be...

Paradoxicaly if I'm at work or starting a new job I have no trouble with people wanting to know about me. But I guess that's because our purpose is work.

How do you guys handle informal social situations and fear of other people's motives. How can I be more sure that someone is safe?