Hints that someone doesn't want to be there

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Hi:
I often have trouble reading between the lines and especially when someone is supposed to be me friend attends a gathering of mine but doesn't want to be there.

What are some hints for me to look for?

Hmm. Maybe if they keep looking at the exit and walking near an exit. Saying they must leave. If they don't talk much maybe and don't smile but that doesn't always mean they don't want to be there.

- Limited interaction with others. If they are normally more social than how they are at your gathering than definitely not interested in getting involved.

- Looking at or sticking near the exit. If they brought stuff with them like a bag or whatever and if they are packing their stuff up or keeping their stuff with them not putting it down or unpacking it.

- Not directly asking you to leave, but making little hints like maybe they 'had to be somewhere else but decided to come here instead' etc. if they do it lots they trying to hint they want to actually BE at the other place.

Sometimes they might be a genuine friend that just doesn't enjoy the actual gathering but is still there for you. It's hard to tell the difference for me sometimes...

It was 15 years ago I had recently re-connected with a childhood friend who kept giving me hints that she wasn't interested. Yet she came to my high graduation party with her mom and her brother. I didn't read between the lines that she didn't want to be there or really be with me as a friend.

According to my mom she said that she didn't really seem all that excited to see me by only thinking about talking about herself. It was like she there for the food more the less in that she talked about how hungry she was and even the food selection wasn't good enough. She also went down into my room and wanted to call her boyfriend when he was at work. Again those types of relationships at parties are hard to read into.