Starting Conversations with Strangers?

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I'd like to make some new friends, but, like I've mentioned in other threads I'm a bit of an oddball where I live. I live in redneck country, and I'm a geek through and through. They want to go hunting, I want to write a book. They want to soup up their pickup truck, I want to play a video game. They want to get wasted at a bar, I want to stay home and watch anime on Netflix. There are also no clubs or groups that I've been able to find for people with similar interests.

The only other advice people have ever given me is to try striking up a conversation with people I don't know in places I like to go. Like, when I go to Barnes and Noble, just start chatting with with other shoppers. Thing is, I don't think they realize just how terrifying something like that sounds. I don't often talk to the people sitting in the cubicle across from me, and I never say things to people I meet in public places On the other hand, maybe it gets easier the more I do it? I guess it might not be so hard to ask someone if they know any good authors and maybe strike up a conversation about books that way? I don't know. The ways of the socialite are strange and mysterious, and the mortal mind cannot fathom the depths of their insanity. *waves arms mystically*

Anyway, what do you think?

It does get easier the more you try it. Maybe it would be easier to talk to an employee when you're at Barnes and Noble. Let them help you find something (even if you can't find it yourself), and that would give you a few minutes of talking time. Once that seems easy, you could try speaking briefly with a customer.

lol I was going to suggest this, too before I read your post. Take note of the questions the employee asks you or at least the types of questions, and remember them for when you want to talk to others. You'll feel more prepared and relatively at ease when you have some general questions in your thought bank ready for use.

Okay, I guess the next question is... how do I do it without seeming like a creeper?

^Ooh, tough question lol.

Try observing people briefly before you interact with them. Do they look like they're in a hurry? Or are they taking their time browsing books? If they look relaxed, friendly etc, then when you approach them, you can say something like, "Hey. I'm interested in reading more [historical/fiction/whatever genre section you're currently standing at], and I'd like to know if you can suggest any books or authors that you've enjoyed."

Another option is to approach older adults/elderly people in the libraries and bookstores as they're usually more welcoming and willing to talk to you. Good way to practice your conversational skills.